The wedding industry is so cisheteronormative that a caterer I reached out to just replied to me and called me “Alexandra”. My full name is on the message.
I have my full name, Alexander, listed because when I went by Alex on the site every vendor assumed I was a woman, because heaven forbid a MAN have any investment in his own wedding!
And then I get to correct them when they assume I’m marrying a woman. Once they meet us, I can watch them calculating which is “really the woman” in the relationship. They usually decide it’s me bc I’m friendlier/more talkative with strangers and I handle the communications.
Then they direct stylistic info at me and financial info at my partner, otherwise leaving him out of the process altogether.
I’m so tired yall and we’ve only just started.
I’m so tired yall and we’ve only just started.
You ever so wrapped up in your own expectations you forget how to read? 
I also LOVE how there’s literally no way to ask specifically about trans inclusivity without outing myself /s
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