@The_ACNA Who is conducting this independent investigation?
What are their qualifications?
What is the scope of the investigation and its proposed methods?
In what ways is it "independent"?
Will the final report be public?
@The_ACNA Are the persons conducting this investigation trauma-informed and survivor-sensitive in their procedures for identifying victims & communicating with victims?
What methods do they employ that demonstrate claims to be survivor-sensitive & trauma-informed?
@The_ACNA What can survivors expect if they decide to entrust themselves to the Province's professions of grief & goodwill by sending an email identifying themselves as victims of abuse?
Who will read this email? What are their qualifications?
@The_ACNA Disclosing abuse to anyone, let alone a stranger who represents (even as an "independent" investigator) the denomination who has previously enabled their abuser & mishandled abuse allegations on a diocesan level, is to take great risk & open oneself to retraumatization.
@The_ACNA Are the leaders of @The_ACNA so dazzled by their own sincere good intentions to "do this right" that they have forgotten to think about whether they have a right to expect survivors to trust them with their stories? What reason would survivors have to trust them?
@The_ACNA Has the deeply grieved and empathetic leadership of the @The_ACNA demonstrated even basic audience awareness by bothering to think about how overwhelming & difficult it is for survivors to trust institutions who have empowered their abusers?
@The_ACNA Has @The_ACNA leadership bothered to explain to those who might wish to report abuse what the procedures "that must be followed" actually are and what outcomes can be expected?
@The_ACNA Would it not be appropriate to ask survivors what their own hopes & expectations are in contacting @The_ACNA? Do they wish, for instance, to initiate a legal proceeding? Should the relevant procedure be explained to them before they commit to it?
@The_ACNA@StewartRuch@MidwestAnglican@ACNAtoo The leadership of @The_ACNA is not entitled to trust that it has not earned, nor is it likely to earn sympathy from the public or survivors when survivors do not choose to entrust them with their stories as part of an "independent" investigation.
@The_ACNA@StewartRuch@MidwestAnglican@ACNAtoo The leadership of @The_ACNA is furthermore not entitled to control the story of survivors who were abused by ACNA leaders like Mark Rivera or "M" of the Diocese of Pittsburgh. The Province is not entitled to trust when the dioceses have failed to handle abuse allegations properly
This means that you answer reasonable survivor questions.
This means that you listen to survivor concerns & demonstrate that you are listening with your actions.
@The_ACNA@StewartRuch@MidwestAnglican@ACNAtoo Just because YOU may be aware of abuse allegations that have been handled well by the Province or dioceses in the past doesn't mean that survivors know of these private victories or should overlook ACNA's many (often public) failures in responding properly to abuse allegations.
@The_ACNA@StewartRuch@MidwestAnglican@ACNAtoo Just because @The_ACNA may have worked really hard on a good procedure doesn't mean that survivors should entrust themselves to them, especially when the ACNA leaders can't be bothered to explain these procedures to people clearly, or provide support for navigating the process.
Even someone who didn't care about survivors but cared about basic institutional image management could do better than this.
Instead, we get more leaders who are overconfident in their own judgment who don't listen carefully to the voices who matter most: survivors & experts.
I don't know how many times we have to say that sincerity and good intentions are meaningless if leaders don't listen and humbly learn to act wisely so they don't compound the harm done to victims and survivors.
Pumpkin has done his best PR campaign since yesterday's bunny mawling to convince *me* that he is not a sociopath, including several out-of-character snuggles AFTER a bath.
Paul is not convinced and remains understandably shaken after yesterday's unsuccessful bun rescue attempt
Pumpkin just came in for a peaceful snuggle. Not five SECONDS after he was released, I heard a bunny start to scream.
Pumpkin had managed to get a very tiny bun in the smallest possible time window imaginable, not even bothering to be discrete about his bloodlust.
I was able to release the bun from Pumpkin's fangs & the panicking would-be-snack ran straight into Pumpkin Jail (the garage).
Pumpkin is now cooling off inside with me and he's not happy.
I hope the little bun survives. He was moving fast, but I think Pumpkin broke the skin.
It was another sad moment at the Griffinage today when Pumpkin, a cat who displays higher than usual levels of feline sociopathy, badly mangled a tiny bunny, who was unable to be saved. Paul had to make the final call, which is always a wound to his own heart.
Pumpkin usually goes to "cat jail" after these incidents so that we can either help his prey make a life-saving escape or so we can give it a decent burial.
After a bunny incident, Pumpkin needs a bath. Paul is highly allergic to wild bunny dander.
We encourage Pumpkin to consider his bath as a kind of baptism to wash away his many sins.
I was too caffeinated from study time to do much productive work in therapy today but did have the best time talking with my therapist about the therapeutic Renaissance of the 1990s that shaped so much of the current landscape today.
My therapist has been a psychologist since the 90s and got to see it all happen. I found her because I was looking for someone that was trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and had a good framework for attachment and trauma.
She's continued to expand her toolkit and has stayed on the cutting edge of best practices.
One of the things that she does better than any other therapist I've ever worked with, either as a client or collaborator, is "Feedback Responsiveness."
This thread by @john__perrine cuts through the Performative Sincerity of leaders like @aarondamiani. Like @StewartRuch who trained & empowered him, he is adept at saying the right things publicly while doing the exact opposite publicly.
I also bet that if met @aarondamiani & @StewartRuch in person without knowing about any of this stuff, I would think they were great people. I love my tribe of charismatic Anglicans. I also love that these are people that have been trying to train people and build good things.
Most leaders are not going to fail in the ways that we are hearing about from the survivors because most leaders are not going to try to take the Holy Spirit seriously or invest this much time in training people.
We still can't treat people under our authority in this way.
Thank you, @ArchbishopFoley . The team at @ACNAtoo is looking forward to walking with you and working with you as you lead @The_ACNA into the light so we can be a safe, healthy, & mature denomination.
We are grateful to see this shift in public tone from the Province & a willingness to talk publicly and pastorally.
This is what we need from you along with significant changes in policy & culture in @The_ACNA so this never happens again.
No one wanted to have to expose these things on social media.
No one wanted to have to take an aggressive social media strategy to place the shame that @StewartRuch & @MidwestAnglican were placing on survivors & place it back on the leaders that shamefully failed them.