Imagine a haze over the lake at #CampWithMeg has started to burn off. Imagine clean sweet air. Imagine the dogs had a great romp this morning and are wet & grinning. Imagine wide log benches worn smooth & flat stones for work surfaces around the fire. Imagine birdsong.
Let’s imagine I got up very early this morning and made oatmeal with the leftover apples & berries & nuts from yesterday. The folks who stayed up late last night talking & playing games around the fire banked it well,so it started easily. There’s hot water ready for tea & coffee.
Imagine you are here, awake in the quiet mid-morning, people getting food, chatting idly, no big plans for the day yet. What small thing did you bring to camp for moments like this?
One group sits at a comfortable remove, with @PactofTheFerret coloring & @TheQueerFae drawing trees as they might have looked millions of years ago with dinosaurs around them & me chatting with @tenpenjenn while doing sketches of the flowers @DynRPG & @mousewifegames are admiring
@jrrmungandr, what are you sketching? Here are some pincushion flowers!
The day has grown HOT! Time for a swim!!
Imagine hot sun on a lake in the mountains. Imagine dragonflies, dogs drowsing the shade of tall pines, & the sound of @mnerurkar's ukulele drifting out on the water. Imagine a little dock made of logs. What are you up to? Did you bring a blowup tube? Are there a couple canoes?
Who can take the two little kayaks out and show @Skulleigh the basics? There's a spot in the canoe that @spadeandspear is taking out to the island, and @ReneeLascala's is secured, waiting for dusk.
@glenatron, let's race @ink_and_stories, then I will absolutely mess about with inflatable tubes with you once he goes back to the shore and settles in with his guitar alongside @mnerurkar. Do you take requests? What's the best #CampWithMeg tune?
@DynRPG & @Skulleigh have reported there seem to be ducks nesting out by the diving rock, so @OpinionsbyShane is heading farther out, to play in the rapids north of camp.
Look at those clouds rolling in!
Alright, all you water-loving folks! Come get dinner! Slow-roast veggies, a big pot of stew, bread & butter, plenty of tea, melon that's been kept cool all day at the water's edge. The wind's picked up a bit; might want to stash things before you eat. Thanks for this day!
Oh, oh! I think we are going to get wet! Quick, get everything under the tarps stretched between the pines!
Nothing like a shower on a hot day! The rain falls in great big drops, the kind that tell you not to worry, it’s just passing through. We eat under the pines and watch the maples sway.
All the art is safely away from the rain, including any yarn @LadyMdeJ & @tenpenjenn were using. The dogs seem excited that everyone is under the tarps, like one giant tent, & rush around collecting pets. There’s no thunder, & so many of us are in swim gear it doesn’t much matter
@TheDovetailor’s tent & mine & a few others are out on the clear field, not under the pines - good thing we zipped them closed before the rain hit! Who will help @OpinionsbyShane & I catch rainwater?
The tarps feel like a festival as the rain starts to lessen. Someone lights some tealight candles, someone passes around the chocolate from last night’s s’mores. All the night owls & early birds, artists & explorers & swimmers & cooks & musicians, all of #CampWithMeg, all here.
Talking with People part 2, #bakerhouseband
One time, I was at a convention, meeting lots of new people. A man I’d never met before came up to me & said “You are Meguey Baker, right?” Yes I am. “And is it true you are a sex ed teacher?” Yes, right again! “I have a question...”
Ok, let’s sit down. This young man had just had the opportunity to talk with some young women, but had missed the chance, for several reasons. Primary among those was being on his way somewhere else, not wanting to intrude on the women, and also…
/not knowing how to approach someone he was interested in meeting but didn’t have context to meet/, as in, they were not at a gathering together with a socially easy way to say hello and introduce himself and have a casual conversation.
#CampWithMeg Flowers behind my tent!
(Please feel free to add photos from our imaginary camping trip to the hashtag! Keep to ones you’ve taken, please, but feel free to stage them if you like!)
I want so very much to be camping somewhere far away in the mountains by a smallish lake with my family & like a handful of other folks. Play a little pretend camping trip with me? It’s morning, we hiked in yesterday, set up last night to be here for a few days. #CampWithMeg
Imagine tents. Imagine a solar charger so you can take photos, but no internet - no email, no streaming anything. Imagine it’s hot enough to swim during the day but cool enough to enjoy a fire at night.
There’s coffee in the pot if you want some and birds are signing. How did you sleep?
Ok, so. Talking to people, part 1. I dunno, #bakerhouseband, probably.
Years ago, generations ago, there were keys that got handed down, on how to talk to people, on how to meet new people, and places, so many places, to talk and meet each other.
Then we forgot.
Collectively, we forgot collected-ness. Connectedness. I could point to a dozen reasons quickly, but right now let's just go with two: stranger-danger and the systematic monetization of public spaces. Oh, and the massive increase in cars & traffic speed.
"Stranger-danger" was a reaction to the dawning understanding that the abuse of children and violence against women* were real things, terrible things, & maybe if we just pretended those things were done by STRANGERS, instead of primarily within households, we would be safe.
I was not harassed out of the project. I had something sprung on me, was pissed off, said so, thought it over a bit, and pulled my work. Shortly after that, the project folded.
As it happens, I had other stuff I needed to pay attention to on Saturday. I got a text at 1 PM from a friend to maybe check twitter, & spent the next 10 hours sorting out a mess with real consequences, for many people who were stunned & angry, some who were worried or afraid.
It would have been /extremely/ easy for us to just miss the entire thing, have it look like we were fully on board & had known all along. I'm very glad that's not how it played out, because that is the exact opposite of the case.
We have to understand that we are not just putting safety tools out there for players to protect themselves, we are actively looking to create safety, a long term cultural shift towards care, respect, & compassion for each other, even if our characters are post-apocalyptic beasts