#DrLoveleeOnLife
On marriage:
I grew up in a home with 2 parents, so my expectations of what a marriage & a family should be were rooted in what I saw growing up.
Add to that, influences from Danielle Steele/ Mills & Boon Novels, Bo&Bilie, Brooke &Ridge on TV, True Love mag etc
With time, growth & experience I was forced to relook at my expectations (actually fantasies to be honest) regarding marriage (romantic relationships in general).
A lot of unlearning was done, usually brought on by pain from trying to force another person to be who they aren’t.
Which brings me to what I wanna discuss:
With so many tools at our disposal, a lot of people (still) enter into relationships w marriage /some type of long term commitment as a goal “without preparation”. Or at the very least with an idea of what else they want besides “a ring”
I was talking to my friend who is a GP yesterday, she was just venting a little about how frustrated she is that people are choosing to miss all the messages from healthcare workers & gov
There’s a lot of information online & even HERE about this virus &how to behave but noooo..
It is impossible to test everyone, also it’s not necessary because most people will NOT require any form of medical treatment besides what they normally do when they have a cold or flu-like symptoms:
Stay home & rest & avoid infecting other people
There is no need to run to private labs for testing. They don’t test everyone. They don’t have capacity.
And you’ll be turned away by most labs as you need to have seen a dr first. Someone needs to receive your results & counsel / reassure / treat those who are infected.
That kids with “formula on the floor” tweet reminded of something.
I find it strange that some kids are given copious amounts of formula (or even milk) after age 1.. Like up to 6 bottles a day.
250-300ml of milk, even full cream cows milk(if no health issues with it) is enough.
An average big bottle size is 250ml. Anything >2 of those is excessive. Imagine giving 4-6.. that 1L to 1,5L of milk for someone who weighs about 10-13kg.
Also, kids over 1yr should NOT be using a bottle with a teat. Start encouraging sippy cups early (+/- 9mo) & open cup by 1yr
Milk is primary nutrition at birth, & should be reduced as more and more food is added. Solids are generally started from average 6months, but some people start at 4mo to introduce food.
Please wean according to your baby’s needs, See dr / dietician if in doubt how to proceed.
Putting people up on high pedestals is a problem. This is often done becoz of one sided perceptions of individuals, without regard to the fact that humans are inherently flawed.
We form unrealistic expectations from those we “idolize”, thus setting the stage for disappointment.
Nobody is perfect, and the parts about that person that you never thought existed will eventually show.
And when it does, people wanna cry “How could s/he do that (to me)?”. The problem is not the person per say... but your perception of them.
Life is a two sided coin, there’s always a balance. So are people & their characters.
One is never / always something without the opposite of that character trait. If you live life focusing only on one side then you’re being unfair to yourself & those around you.