Thread by @trylavida

Lack of communication is in the top 5 reasons for divorce

5 Love Languages:
Learn to communicate well with your partner before it's too late

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Love is a complex term

So is the way we express and recognize love

At the end of this thread you'll have more clarity on your expression of love and your partner's expression of love

Without understanding this, you might as well be speaking different languages

In order to know your love language, look through the following 5 terms that I explain

Afterwards, decide if you had to choose one, which one could you not do without in a relationship

Go through the same activity with your partner

1. Word of affirmation

Using words to support, encourage, affirm and appreciate.

This type of love language is all about the message you give through your words. It can be written, spoken or sung

You better be listening to your partner if this is their love language

A few ideas to express word of affirmation are:
-love notes
-morning texts
-write a song
-tell them how amazing they are

When receiving this love language, make sure you show your appreciation for the kind words

2. Physical Touch

This is not about sex. Although, regular sex is great to keep the passion in a relationship.

This is about holding hands, cuddles, kisses, etc.

If you ignore these things with a partner who expresses this love language, they'll feel neglected

A few ideas to express physical touch are:
-hold hands in public
-kiss when you see and leave each other
-cuddle on the couch
-dance together

If receiving this love languages, make sure you do it with a positive and wiling attitude. Huffing and puffing creates negativity

3. Gifts

This is all about the thought. You put that person in the limelight when you give a gift.

Some love giving gifts, some love receiving gifts.

Think outside the box when gift giving.

Make it a surprise. Make it unpredictable

If your partner loves giving gifts, you better show them you appreciate it

4. Quality Time

Dates, conversations, being there in the moment together

This types of person loves it when the rest of the world doesn't matter and your entire focus is on them

If you are focused on your phone or not there in the moment, they won't be happy

Make time for your partner
- go on dates
- make a time for open conversation to talk about anything and everything bothering you and your partner

If you haven't been present when spending time together, acknowledge it and do better to be there with your partner

5. Acts of Service

Chores, errands, help

All of the things your mum does when you go back home. This kind of love language is about lightening the load

Less load means less stress. Less stress leads to a happier you

Make sure that when you say you will do something, you do it

Otherwise, you will annoy your partner if this is their love language

Summary of 5 Love Languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Gifts
4. Quality Time
5. Acts of Service

Now go back through and figure out which love language you are

Quiz your partner on it too

I guarantee that once you understand each other's love language, your communication abilities will improve greatly

This information was summarised from the book '5 Love Languages'

I was uneasy in my relationship and came across this book

I talked it over with my now fiancé

Once we both realized how we both identify and express love, our relationship became much stronger

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