Embracing the idea of failure is the best way to improve (in technical sports). It’s an overused cliché but failures really are a necessary part of progress.
Four examples from sport:
1 - Juggling:
To learn to juggle you shouldn’t focus on catching but on throwing. It doesn’t matter if you don’t catch the ball. Trying to catch means your throwing becomes a desperate attempt to clear your hand for an incoming ball...
...this results in throws which are impossible to catch as you have headlessly thrown them outside your catching range.
2 - Tennis:
A beginner should concentrate on hitting the ball correctly not trying to get the ball over the net into the court. There are one hundred ways to hit the ball over the net; ninety-five of them are incorrect.
Failing to get the ball over the net but using the correct technique is far better than getting it over the net by playing pat ball.
3 - Ice Skating:
Most beginners concentrate on staying upright (falling hurts!) at all costs, so become tense and robotic. The fear of falling hinders learning the correct movement patterns. Embracing the idea of process over a negative outcome means faster learning.
4 - MotoGP:
All the great riders are prepared to lose control as it is the only way to become a champion and push the boundary of riding possibilities. Riders who become afraid of falling off, retire.
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- Aging is diminishing variation
- The 1st Law of Cybernetics
- The best predictor of your future health is your current health
- Anna Karenina principle
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Ok, this was a paradigm changing day for me; I cycled along the Essex coast, first stop was Canvey Island, essentially a cockney diaspora bubble from London's East End.
This is the FIRST coastal resort where people said "Good Morning" and "Hello" as I walked along the front...
...the whole area was scrupulously clean and tidy. An old man (an eastender) started having a chinwag with me. People were very polite to each other (and the shopworkers were too) and friendly.
The East End of london is practically unrecognisable now (demographically) bengalis..
bangladeshis, muslims, blacks (can I say that) - the real eastenders moved out after the war to new towns with better accommodation and away from the areas that were changing.
Canvey Island is 99.9% white, hardly a hint of brown (I realised I was the brown one) with...
- Anxiety
- Fear
- Cynicism
- Tinkering
- No money
- Lots of money
- Celebration
- Inaction
- Random opportunities
- Help from others
- Buying assets
- Making money
- Feeling like a king
- Losing money
- Losing more money
- Having no money
- Debt
- Reframing 'debt'
- No fear
- Not taking life personally
- Taking life personally
- Regular walks thru cemeteries
- False starts
- False dawns
- Determination
- Mental toughness (no longer scared)
- FU attitude (to my situation)
- Finding out what I’m good at (and like)
- Concentrating on that
Guru doesn't usually talk about sex, dating women or the BS term of being a 'player' - those twitter accounts are dumb and mostly set up by average looking shallow men.
However, lack of 'success' with the opposite sex is a concern for some young men.
Here's what I found out:
When I was at school I had no real interest in girls; I was quite happy talking about UFOs, ghosts and science. I was very active, playing football during break or British bulldog, 'he' or 'home'. Most of my friends had no experience with girls.
It's after I left school that I started to get attention from the opposite sex; this was quite shocking as I had little of it at school. It felt good, so I went with the flow.
However, encounters were initiated by them, not me, I had no confidence in approaching girls.
Forget about Phelp's comments on red meat, but here are some truths:
1 You can 'get away' with a bad diet when you're young but less so when you're older
2 Many top athletes change their diet as they age, in an attempt to keep performances going, resist injury, find a holy grail
3 As athletes get to the end of their career they become more fragile not stronger, they try to find ways to stay strong and healthy
4 As far as being lean and looking boss/buff is concerned you *can* offset a very poor diet with a shit-tonne of exercise....
....but it's still not healthy, and sooner or later the amt of exercise you can/will/want to do will diminish, leaving you with your bad diet
5 Superior genetics hides multiple dietary 'sins'.
6 As an athlete you eat for performance; as a human you should eat for the long-term