Thread by @AlexBuddyUp1

Right now, I'm struggling a bit to find my next #GrowthBuddy

Reaching out to ask someone to be your #GrowthBuddy is one of the most vulnerable thing you can do since you can get rejected

But the reward is huge!

Here is my experience on it..
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First off, let me be clear about 3 things:
1) What is a growth buddy?
2) Why I'm looking for a new #GrowthBuddy while I already had one (I actually have multiple ones)
3) Why I don't simply rely on my immediate social circle to find my next #GrowthBuddy

1) What is a growth buddy?

Someone you do check-ins with to get accountability so that you nail your goals and stay motivated along your entrepreneur journey

The growth part comes from the "growth mindset" notion.

I elaborate more on this here:

https://twitter.com/AlexBuddyUp1/status/1414935139621085187

2) Why I'm looking for a new #GrowthBuddy while I already had one (I actually have multiple ones)

Don't fall into the trap of keeping the same buddy for years

Changing buddies give you the diversity you need to optimize your learning by discovering different world views.

3) Why I don't rely on my immediate social circle to find my next #GrowthBuddy

For a beginner, I would recommend to do it

But I want to experiment

Also a foreigner can be great if you want to be sure the vulnerability things you share won't leak into your social circle

Here's what happened so far...

I started with what I already do: calls with people I meet along my Twitter adventure.

But this did not work, my offer to become their #GrowthBuddy got rejected 2 times.

One thing I want to stress out is that you should never try to "persuade" someone too much to be your #GrowthBuddy.

The person would end up not committed and not willing to share vulnerable things about herself/himself.

2nd thing is that whatever you do, it's going to hurt.

Because failure and rejection are the two things that hurt a human being's self-esteem the worst.

However, you can ease the pain by taking the rejection as a rejection of the idea rather than a rejection of yourself.

Right now, I am writing a book on the concept of the #GrowthBuddy

So I'm enjoying the process so far.

As it helps me to be more empathetic with my audience.

For example it reminded me how awkward it can be to ask out, when finding myself speaking faster to cope.

What I'm going to do now:

I won't give up on the Twitter experiment just yet, as I still believe it can be a good medium to find a #GrowthBuddy

I also experimented in the past with paying communities and it worked

But I want to experiment with another channel I did not try yet

Which is posting on sub-reddit channels dedicated to finding an accountability partner.

Here are 3 ones I know about:
r/GetMotivatedBuddies
r/Accountabilibuddies
r/accountability

I will let you know how it goes!

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Here's the reddit post I wrote:
reddit.com/r/GetMotivated…

Could be more friendly and engaging I guess.

But hey, that's a start!

And I got 3 answers already.

So last week I found a great buddy!

She's a psychology student from Turkey, with just 1 hour time difference from me.

And we are pairing up for 3 months

We'll be doing weekly review calls + short daily check-ins

#GrowthBuddy