Another thing I forgot. I may not understand abstract instructions. So pls be clear & don't attack my comprehension/ communication skills. I knew someone who mocked me and it hurt me deep. She said "you're a post grad communications major but you don't understand instructions"
I actually am brilliant at my majors. I passed cum laude. I don't comprehend how neurotypical people do. Neurotypical people tend to be abstract, they leave lots of hints, or comprehend unclearly. And expect others to fill in the blanks. Which, in response neurotypical people
Are able to fill in the blanks. I can't. If you want me to cook you a tamatie bredie. You have to say. "hey can you cook tamatie bredie for me on Wednesday?"
You can't say "I'd really like tamatie bredie". I don't know if you mean from me, when you want it, if you're making it
If you're just making a conversation etc. That's a simple example. I'll give another one. A manager once told me to "make notes and bring it with me to my review". So because handwriting notes helps me focus, that's what I did. He then was annoyed because he meant that I should
Type up notes and print them, and give it to him for records of my issues etc. I didn't understand that from what he said. But then he ended up making me feel like I'm defective or unable to follow instructions but really he is not communicating well and expecting me to fill in
Massive blanks. To me, I understand what he said to mean, I must make notes for my sake since it is a verbal meeting.

People with ADHD and autism need FULL explanations, not because we have low IQs in many ways we actually may have higher IQs than regular people.
We just don't understand things that are left for interpretation.
If you want a set of notes from me, say that.
I hope this also helps people be kind, and conscious of how you communicate and also how to communicate to with people who have #ADHD etc.

• • •

Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to force a refresh
 

Keep Current with ADHDiva

ADHDiva Profile picture

Stay in touch and get notified when new unrolls are available from this author!

Read all threads

This Thread may be Removed Anytime!

PDF

Twitter may remove this content at anytime! Save it as PDF for later use!

Try unrolling a thread yourself!

how to unroll video
  1. Follow @ThreadReaderApp to mention us!

  2. From a Twitter thread mention us with a keyword "unroll"
@threadreaderapp unroll

Practice here first or read more on our help page!

More from @GogoMagosha

17 Sep
While we are on the topic of Afrikaans being a stolen language. Do we know about what is happening in Observatory, Cape Town? Particularly surrounding indigenous ground & water?
Amazon is currently trying to build their Africa headquarters, and fill parts of the River with cement
The area itself is sacred and important, we know it is one of the places where battles were fought against colonisation. Before then, the area was a safe haven and place where our people found water, and practiced African spirituality. The area and rivers are also home to
Endangered plant and animal species. All of which will surely disappear once Amazon builds their headquarters there. The building itself will also be responsible for potential flooding in the area according to environmental specialists, as it will take place on a floodplain.
Read 12 tweets
17 Sep
The real reason accepting my #ADHD diagnosis was so difficult is because I already have very severe #endometriosis causing nerve issues eg mobility is affected, and also depression and anxiety. I guess I pushed it aside because I don't want to be seen as even more disabled.
And that's a product of living in an ableist society. People make it hard for us because they stigmatise us. Because of my severe endometriosis and nerve issues, my last employer tried to declare me "incapacitated" and tried to keep others from hiring me based on my health.
People push disabled people out of society because they don't see us as valuable when societies main thing is being a capitalist society. Disabled people to the world seem like liabilities. Like we can't provide the same kinda labour to the world. And that's ridiculous.
Read 5 tweets
17 Sep
Ugh. Honestly #ADHD therapy sessions with my therapist is a lot. I was bawling about teachers beating me for being distracted, or doodling, fidgeting, or being talkative. No one realised I wasn't neurotypical. They branded me as being disruptive or constantly distracted.
It created a lot of anxiety and depression because it enforced the idea that I was a bad child, or disrespectful. It was hard because I was being beaten for something I genuinely couldn't control. It's a struggle. My brain never stops, it's idea after idea, thought after thought
Often not putting pen to paper not because I'm lazy and procrastinating on purpose but because my brain is wired differently. Sitting down for long periods of time and working on one thing is next to impossible. It's hard to not get distracted.
No one talks about how hard it is
Read 13 tweets
16 Sep
A thread on Cape Coloured food.

I am deliberately saying Cape Coloured because Cape Malays think they have a monopoly of cuisine and customs. It doesn't just belong to them. Anyway, I literally get chest pains when people discuss our food and relate it to yt people.
Where have you EVER seen a yt person use spice? Please. Cape Coloured cuisine is unique because it is so different compared to any cuisine native to South Africa. It is spicy, sweet and sour, notes of coconut and tamarind throughout.
Imagine the same yt people who can't cook or clean their own homes today still. They get too much credit. 🙃
Read 8 tweets
15 Sep
So someone shared that video of a Cape Coloured woman and an Indonesian man talking and seeing the similarities between the languages. The comments were hurtful and I've seen this a lot, people esp in JHB will lambast you for speaking Afrikaans and say it's an apartheid language.
I understand the language was used as a weapon against Black people. But I think it's important to decolonise Afrikaans. Please think about how what you share could affect someone else. Even if it's to educate. The comments really hurt me. Especially because it is from other
Black people. Saying it's because it's Dutch and relaying it back to white people. It erases coloured people entirely, it erases our history which is so complicated. And erases what we went through especially in the Cape with chattel slavery which other groups in SA largely
Read 8 tweets

Did Thread Reader help you today?

Support us! We are indie developers!


This site is made by just two indie developers on a laptop doing marketing, support and development! Read more about the story.

Become a Premium Member ($3/month or $30/year) and get exclusive features!

Become Premium

Too expensive? Make a small donation by buying us coffee ($5) or help with server cost ($10)

Donate via Paypal Become our Patreon

Thank you for your support!

Follow Us on Twitter!

:(