Thread by @GogoMagosha

Another thing I forgot. I may not understand abstract instructions. So pls be clear & don't attack my comprehension/ communication skills. I knew someone who mocked me and it hurt me deep. She said "you're a post grad communications major but you don't understand instructions"

https://twitter.com/GogoMagosha/status/1438787530443350017

I actually am brilliant at my majors. I passed cum laude. I don't comprehend how neurotypical people do. Neurotypical people tend to be abstract, they leave lots of hints, or comprehend unclearly. And expect others to fill in the blanks. Which, in response neurotypical people

Are able to fill in the blanks. I can't. If you want me to cook you a tamatie bredie. You have to say. "hey can you cook tamatie bredie for me on Wednesday?"
You can't say "I'd really like tamatie bredie". I don't know if you mean from me, when you want it, if you're making it

If you're just making a conversation etc. That's a simple example. I'll give another one. A manager once told me to "make notes and bring it with me to my review". So because handwriting notes helps me focus, that's what I did. He then was annoyed because he meant that I should

Type up notes and print them, and give it to him for records of my issues etc. I didn't understand that from what he said. But then he ended up making me feel like I'm defective or unable to follow instructions but really he is not communicating well and expecting me to fill in

Massive blanks. To me, I understand what he said to mean, I must make notes for my sake since it is a verbal meeting.

People with ADHD and autism need FULL explanations, not because we have low IQs in many ways we actually may have higher IQs than regular people.

We just don't understand things that are left for interpretation.
If you want a set of notes from me, say that.
I hope this also helps people be kind, and conscious of how you communicate and also how to communicate to with people who have #ADHD etc.