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Kara Calavera

18 Sep, 11 tweets, 3 min read

https://twitter.com/newsprostv/status/1438571385299902467

I don't always get invested in missing persons cases, but I got invested in the #GabbyPetito one when I saw this. There are so many red flags about the relationship in these 2 minutes, and it was sad to see it written off in the police report as a "mental health crisis." /1

https://twitter.com/newsprostv/status/1438571385299902467

And it's sad even if she hadn't gone missing a couple weeks later. Gabby Petito was upset, but she calmed down over the course of the hourlong footage; the cops just chose to talk to the boyfriend more. /2

I'm not blaming the officers for her going missing--nothing they could've done would've prevented that--although I will criticize them for bro'ing it up with the boyfriend. /3

Also, if Petito had been having a legitimate mental health crisis, as indicated in the report, it shows again how unprepared police are to deal with such issues. She was never offered crisis support, only water and suggestions for where to take a shower. /4

If she'd been having a mental health crisis--which it doesn't appear to me she was--sending her off alone without support could've ended up in suicide. /5

Add'l note: If you watch the full body cam footage, note that the cops never asked Petito whether they had money for a hotel room to keep her out of jail. They only asked Laundrie, who said they didn't. But the two frequently stayed in motels. Why not ask her? 🤔 #sexism /6

(BTW, I thought the officer who dealt with Gabby Petito in this clip did a great job. I'm not criticizing this interaction; he handled this situation well. He lets her speak and builds rapport--he de-escalates. And she calms down in his presence.

He's not the issue.)

(I'm sure unconscious bias made a difference there. She was a tiny white female. But if a cop comes across someone who's emotional and scared on a stop, he should try to do what this guy did.)

(Flinging out accusations will only escalate the anxiety of someone in distress. But if you simply ask, "What's going on?" and allow them to talk it out, it'll get better. And this guy was aware enough that when he saw her getting upset again...)

(...he'd interject with something like, "What is it you do?" to veer her out of her distress. She got back to the main story on her own.)

(I think the police report was flawed--she wasn't having a "mental health crisis"--but that officer handled his questioning of her well. I don't know who wrote the report. Just giving credit to his technique here.)

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One of the officers seems unconvinced that Laundrie is as innocent as he's making it seem, but the louder one starts comparing it to his own marriage and forming a narrative. It's fascinating to watch.

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