Thread by @AutSciPerson

Misgendering - 10
Ira - 0

I think cis women are actually the worst when it comes to using my correct pronouns. Ugh.

No matter what I do they will do it.

It's like they don't think it hurts anyone, or that it's wrong, or that it's unhelpful, or that it's dysphoria-causing.

I think if I don't physically tell them to use my correct pronouns every second I interact with them, they're entitled to misgender me.

They're not. 🙃

Deadnamed by my advisor for 4 months.
Misgendered by faculty I TA for for entire semester.

Misgendered by students all last semester and this semester. It just continues.

They don't give a shit.

You have to be grateful, charismatic, charming, "nice" about it, for them to care 1 ounce. You have to allow them to misgender you 20 times and never correct them.

Academia treating nonbinary and trans students with respect is fucking laughable sometimes.

So much for "diversity"

Tell me world, does this look (also after being explicitly told that I use they/them pronouns) like a she/her to you?

Do you think that is what I want to be called? Is a dark purple hoodie with cargo shorts "too feminine"?!

There are light-colored shirts, like purple and orange shirts, that I explicitly don't wear, that I like, because I know people will misgender me more.

But it actually doesn't matter because me being gendered correctly by anyone today has be 1 instance out of at least 15.

Apparently I'm not done ranting -

My first name is ONE MORE SYLLABLE.

I tell them they can just use my name if they don't want to use my pronouns.

They can't even do that!

And this isn't a "someone does this once" situation. This is from 3 weeks of constant misgendering.

After I explicitly stated my pronouns at the first class.

The thing that set me off today was seeing an email from someone referring to me as "her" when they absolutely-fucking-know what my pronouns are and I've known them for a while.

It's always "just a mistake" no matter how many times they do it. At what point does it become not "just a mistake" - at what point are you held accountable for your actions? For knowingly misgendering someone over and over and over?

I don't want people to feel bad I want them to respect my pronouns -just like they do for literally every cis person in their lives.-

Just not for me though, cause you know, too inconvenient, you'd have to remember, too difficult.

Fuck that. I'm tired of that shit. It's not.

When am I owed respect?

After how many times you misgender me can I say "this is not okay"?

"I'm trying, we're all learning" - bullshit. Half the time cis people (esp. cis women) are only actually trying when they're fucking called out on it.

I'm tired of calling you out.

And fun fact - the person I would talk to about this is the faculty who misgendered me for the entirety of last semester, until I emailed her and asked if she had any difficulty using my pronouns..

The next week, oh wow, suddenly she used they/them pronouns with NO problem.

What do you think she would do if I said they were misgendering me during class?

Probably send out an email telling people not to misgender me? Do you think that would actually do anything?

It's not like she's there when I teach.

It's just more work for me if I bring it up.

Got to block some TERFs misgendering me quote tweeting my image above.

Great.

It's actually even worse than just the blatant transphobia.

They also called me "honey"
🤮

I'm tired of cis people centering themselves whenever I mention being misgendered.

If it's "hard for you" to use they/them pronouns,
then maybe realize how hard it is to be constantly misgendered by people who have these takes.