"My story it seems is fairly standard - various events from childhood to quite recently in the office environment of inappropriate behaviour including one incident at university I have now come to acknowledge was a sexual assault." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"But what I want to share is the impact it's had.
I am no longer comfortable 'dressing up' to go out. My Mum says 'I wish you'd wear your hair down, put a bit of make up and wear brighter colours - you would look so much more attractive'." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"But she doesn't realise that that is exactly why I don't do that. I like not being noticed, it's so much safer, I don't have to put up with unwanted comments so I can relax when I'm walking the dog or having something to eat with friends." 3/ #STFUSaturday
"Not being noticed has become my comfort blanket (and yes, I've been single for over 10 years, because I don't let anyone get too close either)." 4/ #STFUSaturday
"I'm sat crying my eyes out typing this because I'm so sad and angry for myself and every other woman who has changed just a little of themselves because of the comments/actions of a man who won't even think for a second the impact it might have had." 5/5 #STFUSaturday
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“The first time I can remember seeing a penis was when I went home for lunch from school with a school friend. I had just started high school so I must have been 11 or 12.” 1/ #STFUSaturday
"His older brother and friends were all there watching porn (animal porn) I don’t remember to this day how I ended up alone with one of the friends penis out trying to kiss me and make me touch it while they all laughed outside the door." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Around 13 I went on a trip to France with school. Three different men exposed themselves to us, our teacher told us to ignore them. Aged around 14 I had my first proper boyfriend, I was besotted with him, we held hands a lot and kissed, that was it." 3/ #STFUSaturday
“The violence against me started when I was a child. My dad had rage issues and, whilst he hurt my mum and my sis, I was his preferred target.” 1/ #STFUSaturday
“After he died, I had an argument with my mum where she said 'yeah, but you used to wind him up...'.
I. Was. A. Child.
Also a grade A student, and sunny and kind (not that these things are prerequisites for not getting abuse).” 2/ #STFUSaturday
“It was never my behaviour that was the issue, it was always his uncontrolled temper. I used to have dreams he killed me.
Sexual harassment started from, I dunno, 13 years old probably - getting leered at and catcalled by blokes in vans or building sites.” 3/ #STFUSaturday
"4 years ago, I worked at a tech company in Manchester. The all-male sales team were aggressively misogynistic. They rated female employees out of 10, openly shared naked pics of their gfs in the office." 1/5 #STFUSaturday
"One of them once told me: 'Look at [reducted name's] leather pants, I'm worried I'm going to get arrested.' A new, very young female employee started. The sales team took her out, everyone got drunk, and she slept with one of the sales guys." 2/5 #STFUSaturday
"On the Monday, the owner and sales manager organised a prank. They told the sales guy that the girl had gone to the police and was pressing rape charges. At my desk close to the board room, I heard the whole prank unfold and the subsequent hysterical laughter." 3/5 #STFUSaturday
"Prefer to remain anonymous, I’m in therapy from years of abuse. Brought up in a household of domestic violence, my mum left my dad eventually and we went to grandparents for a while." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"Age 8 Grandad exposed himself, got me to expose myself, escalated to touching (until my Nan clocked it so it stopped). Aged 10 my friends and I were flashed at by an open air swimming pool. We thought it was funny at first but then he started to follow us." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Aged 12 a man grabbed my (hardly developed) breast as he walked past me, I was so shocked I just froze. He kept walking but when I turned he was looking back and smiling." 3/ #STFUSaturday
"I would please like to remain anonymous. I haven't ever told anyone this.....first....thank you. Reading all these must take a toll yet you are doing it. I am grateful and already in tears!" 1/ #STFUSaturday
"I got a [car - app name redacted] home because I thought it was safer. The driver asked for my number and said to call him directly instead of using the app. He laughed when I refused over safety. Showed me he had my number anyway." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Made me feel utterly unsafe, something that continued with texts/calls and the horror that thanks to my drop off, he knew where I lived. Then despite asking [app name redacted] not to allow him to pick me up, he came to get me after work in a different car." 3/ #STFUSaturday
"I was first flashed at when jogging in broad daylight in a field when I was 17. The man was standing in the bushes, his trousers down, his genitals on display and grinning. I ran past, went home and cried." 1/4 #STFUSaturday
"People said 'it's just a flasher, tell him next time to put it away'. Then more recently, a year ago, I was flashed at again. This time I was in my 40s. He was a sixth form boy in SCHOOL UNIFORM. He was waiting down an alleyway, sitting on a tree stump." 2/4 #STFUSaturday
"He saw me coming, undid his trousers and got it out. This time, enraged and in my 40s and no longer afraid like the 17 year old I was, I confronted him. I yelled at him. I asked him what he was doing. He put it away and murmured something. I told the police." 3/4 #STFUSaturday