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THREAD By DM, wishes to remain anonymous.

TW/CW: rape, abuse, domestic violence

“The first time I can remember seeing a penis was when I went home for lunch from school with a school friend. I had just started high school so I must have been 11 or 12.” 1/ #STFUSaturday
"His older brother and friends were all there watching porn (animal porn) I don’t remember to this day how I ended up alone with one of the friends penis out trying to kiss me and make me touch it while they all laughed outside the door." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Around 13 I went on a trip to France with school. Three different men exposed themselves to us, our teacher told us to ignore them. Aged around 14 I had my first proper boyfriend, I was besotted with him, we held hands a lot and kissed, that was it." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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THREAD By DM, wishes to remain anonymous.

TW/CW: rape, abuse, domestic violence

“The violence against me started when I was a child. My dad had rage issues and, whilst he hurt my mum and my sis, I was his preferred target.” 1/ #STFUSaturday
“After he died, I had an argument with my mum where she said 'yeah, but you used to wind him up...'.
I. Was. A. Child.
Also a grade A student, and sunny and kind (not that these things are prerequisites for not getting abuse).” 2/ #STFUSaturday
“It was never my behaviour that was the issue, it was always his uncontrolled temper. I used to have dreams he killed me.

Sexual harassment started from, I dunno, 13 years old probably - getting leered at and catcalled by blokes in vans or building sites.” 3/ #STFUSaturday
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By DM, wishes to remain anonymous:

"4 years ago, I worked at a tech company in Manchester. The all-male sales team were aggressively misogynistic. They rated female employees out of 10, openly shared naked pics of their gfs in the office." 1/5 #STFUSaturday
"One of them once told me: 'Look at [reducted name's] leather pants, I'm worried I'm going to get arrested.' A new, very young female employee started. The sales team took her out, everyone got drunk, and she slept with one of the sales guys." 2/5 #STFUSaturday
"On the Monday, the owner and sales manager organised a prank. They told the sales guy that the girl had gone to the police and was pressing rape charges. At my desk close to the board room, I heard the whole prank unfold and the subsequent hysterical laughter." 3/5 #STFUSaturday
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THREAD by DM, wants to remain anonymous:

"Prefer to remain anonymous, I’m in therapy from years of abuse. Brought up in a household of domestic violence, my mum left my dad eventually and we went to grandparents for a while." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"Age 8 Grandad exposed himself, got me to expose myself, escalated to touching (until my Nan clocked it so it stopped). Aged 10 my friends and I were flashed at by an open air swimming pool. We thought it was funny at first but then he started to follow us." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Aged 12 a man grabbed my (hardly developed) breast as he walked past me, I was so shocked I just froze. He kept walking but when I turned he was looking back and smiling." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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THREAD by DM, wants to be anonymous:

"I would please like to remain anonymous. I haven't ever told anyone this.....first....thank you. Reading all these must take a toll yet you are doing it. I am grateful and already in tears!" 1/ #STFUSaturday
"I got a [car - app name redacted] home because I thought it was safer. The driver asked for my number and said to call him directly instead of using the app. He laughed when I refused over safety. Showed me he had my number anyway." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Made me feel utterly unsafe, something that continued with texts/calls and the horror that thanks to my drop off, he knew where I lived. Then despite asking [app name redacted] not to allow him to pick me up, he came to get me after work in a different car." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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By DM, wishes to remain anonymous:

"I was first flashed at when jogging in broad daylight in a field when I was 17. The man was standing in the bushes, his trousers down, his genitals on display and grinning. I ran past, went home and cried." 1/4 #STFUSaturday
"People said 'it's just a flasher, tell him next time to put it away'. Then more recently, a year ago, I was flashed at again. This time I was in my 40s. He was a sixth form boy in SCHOOL UNIFORM. He was waiting down an alleyway, sitting on a tree stump." 2/4 #STFUSaturday
"He saw me coming, undid his trousers and got it out. This time, enraged and in my 40s and no longer afraid like the 17 year old I was, I confronted him. I yelled at him. I asked him what he was doing. He put it away and murmured something. I told the police." 3/4 #STFUSaturday
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THREAD By DM, wants to be anonymous:

"My father severely beat and tortured me (physically and psychologically) and made sexual overtures for the first 19 years of my life. And he got away with it." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"I was 15 when I finally told a therapist who worked in the guidance department of my high school just a fraction of what went on. She said the school staff suspected abuse but couldn't pursue it unless I said something (this was in the US in 1990)." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"The guidance department feared my father would retaliate violently for reporting him, but instead of removing me from my home, they suggested I plan an escape route on bicycle. I asked what I should do when he tried to plow me down with the car. No response." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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By DM, wants to be anonymous:

"I think I'd prefer to stay anonymous on this one as I still feel a huge amount of guilt for not doing more to help the woman I mention below. I was just so scared at the time and they said one of them was a policeman." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"I phoned up a couple of days later to ask the police what the outcome had been but they said the notes hadn't been written up. I always wondered what happened as I never saw the lady and her family again and they only lived down the road." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"In May 2019 I heard screaming outside my house in the middle of the night so I went to find out what it was. When I got to the other end of the road I found 2 men pinning down a black women and there were 2 other women with them." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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By DM, wishes to be anonymous:

"I'm 43 and I was first sexually assaulted at the age of 13 by a group of older male friends who handcuffed me to a bed and took it in turns to touch and humiliate me." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"I told my parents who said I'd put myself into a position where it was my fault. I told no one else and instead spiralled for many years into self harm and, in my head, put myself in many other situations that were my fault. 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Being flashed at because I walked home in the dark, angering a boyfriend for being easy so he hung me by my neck from a multi story carpark, saying no but being in a bedroom so I'd really said yes." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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By DM, wants to be anonymous:

"My story it seems is fairly standard - various events from childhood to quite recently in the office environment of inappropriate behaviour including one incident at university I have now come to acknowledge was a sexual assault." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"But what I want to share is the impact it's had.

I am no longer comfortable 'dressing up' to go out. My Mum says 'I wish you'd wear your hair down, put a bit of make up and wear brighter colours - you would look so much more attractive'." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"But she doesn't realise that that is exactly why I don't do that. I like not being noticed, it's so much safer, I don't have to put up with unwanted comments so I can relax when I'm walking the dog or having something to eat with friends." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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THREAD By DM, whishes to remain anonymous:

"I have to be anonymous as my parents don't know what happened to me as a child and it would hurt them if they found out. I was first raped when I was 13, by a man at knife point. It was the first time I'd been kissed." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"I was really only interested in studying and sports, not boys. Strangely, what I think affected me more in that instance was that as he dragged me off the road to an industrial estate, I screamed as we went past some houses. Someone came to a window and saw me." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Looked right at me, then made a decision not to get involved. It's his face that still haunts me, that has made me more distrustful of people.

My next run of sexual assaults happened when I got my first part time job at 17 when at college." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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THREAD By DM, wishes to remain anonymous:

"This is a story about how boys behave at school- in my case it was a private boarding school that I only attended for two years between the ages of 16-19." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"The boys there would routinely come up behind girls when going to class or chapel service, and try to pinch their bums. They would sit and watch them walk past and openly rate them: 'I’d do her, I wouldn’t do her.'" 2/ #STFUSaturday
"Final year towards exam season they got into the habit of coming up behind us and pulling our trousers down in front of everyone. Two different boys did it to me in one day, I was 18." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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THREAD By DM; wishes to remain anonymous:

"My partner was a police officer, you’re raised to trust the police aren’t you?

As soon as we moved in together he became increasingly controlling." 1/ #STFUSaturday
"He’d check my mobile phone regularly, started telling me how a dress made me look like a slag, cut me off from my friends and family until there was only him and his friends left, his friends who witnessed my abuse and did nothing." 2/ #STFUSaturday
"He would cheat regularly but told me it was in my mind. (I later found out he had a mistress who he’d forced to have several abortions whilst I was with him).

Eventually things escalated and he became violent." 3/ #STFUSaturday
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