Thread by @mykola

I’ve done this in the past. I learned. That’s what it means to grow.

If you’ve also done this in the past - either publicly or just in your own thinking - take a moment and think about how you’ve stopped.

If you haven’t stopped, this is your chance.

Appreciate the growth.

https://twitter.com/AutSciPerson/status/1435687085722279938

I know so many autistic people who have been traumatized into “I was never wrong, this was just misinterpreted” and I get it.

But: its not scary to be wrong, and people can generally see through the thin denial.

You are scared to be wrong because you have been punished for it.

But nobody is going to punish you if you admit to yourself that you weren’t born fully informed about the nuances of race relations, for instance.

We MUST be ok with having been wrong otherwise we can never leave that state.

I’m slowly - slowly! - getting to a point where I get excited about Having Been Wrong exactly because it means I have grown, which is exciting.

But there are still domains where it’s hard, and still places where others are convinced I did X and I know I didn’t, etc.

Many of us are deeply traumatized around being misunderstood.

It’s triggering and terrifying to have someone think you mean something you didn’t.

And it’s ok to push back in a lot of cases!

But also, we can do harm without meaning to. And in that case we have to listen.