Personality tests are great for helping us understand ourselves and others, though I think that it’s important to note that their pop psychology bint can make them hard to take seriously, especially if the tests aren’t well crafted.
And then there’s the white supremacy…
In ministry circles, the personality tests that I’ve run into the most are Meyers-Briggs, the DISC, and the most popular one right now…the Enneagram. About 20yrs ago, people also talked about the four humors: phlegmatic, sanguine, choleric, and melancholic. I’m not sure…
What rest was associated with the latter, but I remember people trying to type me according to those thing yeas ago…I was a psych major back then and v confused.
Note: I’m talking personality tests and not “spiritual gifts” assessments. Big difference.
I’m not sure when personality tests became a thing for people do do in ministry, but here we are. (Honorable mention to Strengths finder and it’s companion CoreClarity, which is probably the best out of all of the ones I’ve seen and taken).
ANYWAY, something that I noticed with all the tests I mentioned except the Meyers-Briggs and Strengths Finder/CoreClarityis that there is a component of white supremacy that seems to be baked into the typing.
Both the tests and the casual way that people might “type” people.
I used to administer the DISC regularly (it’s my least favorite and I don’t think that it’s a very good test, though there’s a version of it that is better than the actual thing 😬), and I would tell Black people to ignore if they scored a “D” unless it really resonated.
I started doing this after I *consistently* saw Black women scoring high in the D (Dominant) category and being confused because the description didn’t fit them, but their next highest or combination did.
There’s something baked into that test that codes certain behavior as “Dominant” (I believe that there are a couple of other “softer” d-words that can also be used instead of dominant) that is really just based on white culture.
Similarly, I know a lot of Black women who people will automatically type as Enneagram 8s because…🤷🏿♀️
I’ve had people assume I was an 8. I’m a 1, but I can see how people might mistype some 1s as 8s. For the record, 8 isn’t even in the top 3 or 4 of other types I could be.
To the Enneagram test’s credit, I have not really heard of a lot of initial mistyping from Black women who have taken the test. But I’ve seen a lot of folks trying to help people find or understand their type mistype Black women who aren’t anywhere near 8s.
Anyway, I think that these tests can be good tools. But I also don’t like their potential to harm non-white, non-men in dominant culture settings.
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Yesterday I celebrated sixteen years of marriage. I want to attempt to offer sixteen pieces of unsolicited relationship advice that’s worked for us…
1. Avoid people for whom marriage or being in a relationship is a personality trait, because they are frequently toxic.
I know this will make some folk mad, but I mean it. If they don’t have a personality besides talking about marriage, they are unhealthy.
2. Use your words. The other person doesn’t know how you feel unless you tell them. They shouldn’t have to guess or divine. If you can’t use words establish a clear line of communication.
As an Episcopalian, I really try not to talk bad about my Anglican siblings in the ACNA because I came into Anglicanism after the split and I did not live through the tense times and really don’t think it’s a good look for me to critique them because of how some might perceive it
I am going to make an exception to my general rule right now, because…well.
So while y’all were out here worried about what the Southern Baptists might say and do, the Anglican Church in North America somehow managed to our SBC the SBC.
I don’t know who was in the room advising the ACNA Archbishop when he formulated his remarks at their Provincial meeting this past week (which seems to be at the same time as the SBC, ironically), but this ain’t it fam.
Alright alright alright. I have tried to limit how and when I speak in any kind of capacity regarding @TheWitnessBCC, a Black Christian non-profit of which I am the Vice President. My platform and opinions are my own and I try to compartmentalize...until I can’t. So here goes...
In March, @TheWitnessBCC launched our #LeaveLOUD content focus. Our founder, our President, and I shared our stories of leaving white Christian organizations and churches. We have published articles on our website and distributed other media as part of this content focus.
#LeaveLOUD is BY Black Christians, is FOR Black Christians, and is ABOUT who? BLACK CHRISTIANS.
We understand that a lot of our white siblings, particularly #exvangelicals, have resonated with this movement on some level. Not mad at it.
My spiritual practices are what have kept me grounded during this difficult time. Is there interest in a thread where I share some of my spiritual practices?
FYI: These are Christian practices, but there might be some things that anyone can find useful.
Ok so there is definitely interest. I’m pretty sure y’all will get tired of it but here we go.
I again want to state that these practices and some of my recs that go with them are overtly Christian but some can be adapted.
So first of all, I am a dyed in the wool Pentecostal and Charismatic that has become an Episcopalian. I have some intersections with the Baptist, Lutheran, and AME traditions. I was introduced to more of the Catholic and Orthodox traditions while I was in seminary.
As a lot of y’all know, I grew up in a small rural town in the Midwest.
I was at my 15th year high school reunion a couple years ago, which was on the patio of one of the local taverns.
Suddenly a country song started to play and EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE, started losing their minds. Now there had been OTHER country songs playing. But people lost their minds after the first note on this one.
Me, being the lone negro (none of my other black classmates were there but anyway), started looking around for an explanation. I even looked to my husband, who also grew up in my town and is white but seriously uncultured, and he seemed to know what the song was.
It’s funny how, when Black people leave toxic church spaces we are the ones called “divisive.” We always have to bear the weight of judgment and have to explain ourselves.
When you see Black people leaving a predominantly white church space en masse, you should be asking...
Why are so many people walking away? Why are their stories all similar or exactly the same? Why is this not being addressed by leadership? Why does it feel like it’s being swept under the rug? Why is Black folks’ departure deemed as their issue or fault?
Why does the leadership of my church or organization only take the slightest of responsibility (if any at all)? Why do the sermons end teaching in my church seem to change for a season directly after departures? Why are the Black folks who remain given promotions or visibility?