i love the feeling of growing in love. there’s always so much to learn about a person. on their good days & their bad. approaching each obstacle together as a team instead of apart makes it all so worth while.
to find someone that accepts you as you are so openly & gracefully while also giving you the room & space to make human mistakes & grow from them. if you have a friend or lover like this, please do not take them for granted. i believe it’s so rare to find such unconditional love.
so much beauty and warmth radiates from a heart that is ready to love you the way no one else has. so much patience goes into allowing the one you care about have human moments. those moments where they can’t show up for you because they’re struggling to show up for themselves.
the moments where they choose to lash out before they process because they weren’t taught any better and are still learning but it isn’t personal. it’s so important to embrace each other the way we would like to be embraced.
if you have someone that consistently creates such safe spaces for your heart & mind to be put at ease, please hold onto them babe. please water them too. water them as much as they water you. that person that stops the world when they hear you’re in distress.
the person that creates capacity for you when they can. the person that communicates with you healthily and reaffirms you when you need. the person that refuses to let you go to bed anxious or upset. the person that wants to resolve instead of prolong arguments.
the person that not only sees your potential but also sees you. as you are. right now in this moment. how divinely human you are. that offers you love and respect simply because you exist. simply because you are here. cherish that. learn to embody that. i love wholesome love.
tw // abuse
this woman who was physically abused by her partner shared her story. she expressed how women from age 21-24 are most likely to find themselves in physically abusive relationships. she explained how her partner at the time lovebombed her.
she mentioned how he was innocent looking, how he treated her so great in the beginning, like no one had before. paid attention to her like no one had. supported every though, idea and dream she had. was truly the perfect person. was very much so devoted to everything about her.
it went on for quite awhile like this. then the next thing on his agenda (same for most abusers) is to isolate the victim from their loved ones. so he mentioned moving to another state. she really loved him and figured okay we can do that.
the level of grace and patience we extend to others can sometimes be indicative of the level we extend to ourselves. not always but sometimes. then we have the cases where we extend more grace and patience to others than we do to ourselves.
when i meet people that always have something negative to say or a judgment to pass on others, i always think “jeez i wonder how they speak to themselves”. those who are harder on themselves than they are to others sometimes grew up in a household where their needs were put last.
through numerous disappointments and hopefully a run in with some good wholesome friends who care about them, they can learn how to put themselves first and realize that they aren’t that child anymore. that they can change their narrative and demand good things for themselves.
i feel like we put up with subpar treatment from others bc we don’t celebrate ourselves enough. it’s known that what we tolerate in relationships tends to be directly correlated to our self-esteem. therefore, regularly checking in to speak kindness over ourselves, probably…
helps reduce this likelihood. we hear about positive self-talk and affirmations all the time but do we actually do it? and what does that even mean? check in with yourself regularly. celebrate your little victories. did you communicate better this week than you ever have before?
did you try your best in a class or task and exceed your own expectations? do you do a good job at regulating your emotions or at least not letting them make you project onto others or act in toxic ways? all of these things matter.
libra ☼ there’s an emphasis on “time”. are you stressing about how much time you believe you’ve lost or wasted? is it really lost or wasted if you’ve gained so much wisdom & knowledge from it though. you’ve learned things. life altering things from that event.
libra ☼ or that time period. time is a funny thing. an illusion at best. you can’t change the past. you can change your perspective on the past which will inevitably alter your present & your future. life moves in cycles & there’s no real fool proof way to get ahead of them.
libra ☼ you can try to all you want. check every transit if you feel called but in the end, life will still happen to us. the universe does not want you to get lost in feeling like your life is over or that it’s too late to begin something new. you have time.
you have to romanticize your life. stroll into barnes & noble & go straight to the philosophy aisle. act like you know what you’re doing. pick up a book by jean paul sartre & squint at it. open it. close it. open, squint at the page again. you’re really into it. yes sell it.
sell it because you’re being watched. yes because you’re the main character everyones watching you. twirl a strand of your hair. now stop twirling. don’t let go of it though. okay look up as if you’re in deep thought. okay thoughts over twirl the hair again. okay release it.
now sigh because you simply do not agree with him. you simply feel there is more to life than being and nothingness. put the book down. squint at karl marx. smirk at him. trail your finger across the books you are not going to buy yes just like that. okay check your watch.
gemini ⚘ just wanted to say ily cutie, your hair looks nice today. ok so it seems you keep playing reruns of something in your mind. trying to make sense of a toxic situation in your past. you’re very fixated on it because there was a huge lack of communication & understanding.
gemini ⚘ what you specifically choose to fixate on, can actually prolong your healing journey. which is what we don’t want. you also want to make sure you aren’t void filling your time with other people to distract you from the inner reflection you know you need to do.
gemini ⚘ it’s easy to blame others & in this case they totally deserve to be blamed BUT continuously shading them or repeating it’s their fault doesn’t really help you move forward. do you repeat it bc a part of you isn’t ready to take accountability for the role you played?