1. Hello and welcome. It’s episode 358 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr & Mrs Better Half is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word.
3. Emotional intelligence is one’s awareness, control and expression of one’s emotions and the ability to handle interpersonal relationships with empathy. Emotional intelligence or acumen doesn’t come naturally. It must be developed. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. The need for growth becomes even more necessary in relationships and marriages where your partner can easily make you lose your cool without much effort. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. A person who cannot master his or her emotions is a slave to the circumstances and happenings of life. You determine what happens in your life. Do not let your emotions overwhelm you and lead you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. You can easily ruin what could be a great relationship with low EIQ. Just as IQ (intelligence quotient) shows how smart a person is, EIQ shows how emotionally smart one is. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. Do you get angry at every slight provocation? Do people (including your partner) walk on eggshells around you because they don’t know what might just get you angry? Do you throw tantrums, sulk, and refuse to speak to people when you’re upset? #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. If these examples describe you, chances are that your emotional intelligence quotient is not high or not enough and you must take steps to be better. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. Now, you might be wondering why it is crucial to have a healthy level of emotional intelligence. I will share some with you: #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. A) Relationships and marriages need more than sex and romance to thrive. They require emotional intelligence and maturity. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11.B) You must know yourself and understand your temperament. Knowing yourself helps you understand how you react to and process incidents, and how to handle the temperaments of others. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. C) Emotionally intelligent and secure people are better able to build happy, healthy and strong relationships and they are also able to identify people who lack these traits and steer clear of them. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. Now an emotionally immature person would say, “This is my weakness; it’s how I am. There’s nothing I can do about it. Take me as I am.” This kind of attitude puts a tremendous strain on relationships and marriages. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. You are literally manipulating your spouse into dealing with your misdeeds. Your attitude says, “I know that this is unattractive, but I am unwilling to work on it.” #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. Emotional maturity says, “I know that I tend to be like this ( put in your negative trait). I know this is not a great quality and that it potentially puts a strain on our relationship but I am willing to work on it”. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. Emotional maturity also means understanding your spouse, making allowances for his or her weaknesses and not always responding to stimuli. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. When you find yourself feeling frustrated with your spouse, exercise patience; be slow to speak, take deep breaths. Remember that he or she also has triggers. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. Don’t fan the flames, rather find ways to help them jump the hurdle of their personality weakness and resolve issues maturely. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. In relationships and in marriage, you must also build up your emotional credit with your partner. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. Please understand that the currencies we spend in our relationships are primarily emotional. Therefore if you have been nasty to your spouse, you know better than to ask for a favour five minutes later. #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. On the flip side, if you were just sweet to him or her, your request is less likely to be refused. In other words, you can cash an emotional cheque when you have emotional credit with your spouse. #MrMrsBetterHalf
22. When used positively our emotions can bring out the best in us. They can make us kinder and more passionate. #MrMrsBetterHalf
23. Positive emotions are very inviting. Think about it, you naturally gravitate towards people who seem friendly. #MrMrsBetterHalf
24. People who seem friendly, smile or laugh easily, look you in the eye and are patient are great to be around. #MrMrsBetterHalf
25. For example, as a single person, if you are poor at making friends, chances are that people are picking negative vibes off you. Do you give off a ‘don’t bother me’ vibe or a ‘talk to me I’m here to help’ vibe? Be honest with your answer. #MrMrsBetterHalf
26. Ask people who know you well what silent emotions you tend to give off to those around you. And then actively work on getting what is really on your inside, to reflect through your personality. #MrMrsBetterHalf
27. Negative emotions can isolate us or ruin existing or budding relationships. Emotions like anger, rage, malice, rudeness, vindictiveness, and cowardice are detrimental to relationships. #MrMrsBetterHalf
28. If you are dating, you run the risk of shipwrecking your relationship if you can’t manage your emotions. #MrMrsBetterHalf
29. And pretense won’t help either, understand that marriage is not a cure for weakness; it provides an atmosphere that amplifies who you are. #MrMrsBetterHalf
30. A marriage needs to be stirred so that the flames can be sustained. And that shouldn’t be the job of one party. #MrMrsBetterHalf
31. So, as you go about the rest of your year, be intentional about developing your emotional intelligence quotient and watch the positive effects in your relationship or marriage. #MrMrsBetterHalf
32. I hope this has been helpful to you. I will be back next week with another topic. And if you're yet to check out my relationship course for intending couples and married, please head over to amarecourse.com for more details.
33. Until then, thanks for following, participating and RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet! #MrMrsBetterHalf
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