i cannot overemphasize enough that james dobson's most famous parenting book opens with him beating the crap out of a 12 pound dachshund with a belt for sleeping near a heater, and millions of parents bought the book and used it as a daily parenting guide
I am reading the Dobson book The Strong Willed Child (and I have several more lined up: To Train Up A Child, Raising Godly Tomatoes, Shepherding A Child's Heart) for this series. It is very difficult to read these. Just a very alien worldview focused on "breaking children's will"
P.S. No wonder these kids hate you James you absolute carbuncle
literally what is wrong with a child having a strong will! or any will at all! im only a quarter of the way through this book and the word "obedience" has recurred at least 20 times
this is in the chapter advocating for corporal punishment. i am speechless
So many people are fucking haunted by wooden spoons. It makes me so sad.
James Dobson wants you to know it's very important that you beat your kids so you don't... beat your kids harder...?
Also, this is the most minor of issues, but Dobson plagiarizes himself *a lot*. Whole pages and pages of "Dare to Discipline" and "The Strong Willed Child" are completely identical. And vile!
remember: teach your child that absolutely nowhere is safe, ever!
ok i am going to stop posting these because frankly it is just soul crushing. but fuck, man, this bestselling author, guide of millions of parents, multi decade radio host... tells you to hit your child if they cry too much when you hit them. fuck that.
Fuck you, James Dobson. I hope you fall into hell when you die. And that hell for you looks like the childhoods you created with your poison.
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i ran for 40 minutes straight!!! (and then 2m walking and 10min more running). thats the longest yet!!!! only 4 more runs left in the program (although i am pretty far from running 6 miles as i am v slow). i love these stupid badges
at my current pace it will take 85 minutes of running straight to hit 6 miles. fml
ok i just read the first chapter of "to train up a child" for research and i want to crawl out of my skin. one of the most profoundly upsetting things I've ever read; no wonder the book is linked to children's deaths
the book advocates beating INFANTS 3 separate times in the first chapter alone, it has sold over 1.2 million copies, i am so sad rn
James Dobson's books The Strong Willed Child and Dare to Discipline seem to have been more influential but not really less violent. Apparently he talks about beating up his tiny dog and extrapolates from there! Don't beat your kids. My heart is with the survivors of this abuse.
i am now watching the diana musical on netflix and its one of the worst things ive ever seen. this interview is accurate. diana just sang about regretting marrying a scorpio theguardian.com/film/2021/oct/…
"nights like this, i envy the poor/their parties can't be such a bloody bore"
"it's the thrilla in manila/with diana and camilla"