Thread by @Wizarab10

I understand we are all have attachment towards our gender because men and women experience the world differently. However, reducing relationship to rows and columns to check who win and who lost helps nobody. One unique trait is that evil exist abundantly in both gender.

Everyday, we are encompassed with how much harm men do to women and how much harm women do to men. The problem is not gender. The problem is the flaw in human behaviour.

While we are trying to be careful and putting up emotional-proof to avoid hurt, don't get obsessed with evil.

Men don't deserve goodness
Women deserve wickedness

These are how we convince ourselves to create a ripple effect of wickedness and expand the ever growing market of heartbreaks. Men are not to blame for the wrongs of Ikenna and women are not to blame for the wrongs of Sarah.

Hurts are personal not gendered. Learn to separate yourself after a heartbreak. Take a breathe, observe the world around you and make better decision when choosing another partner. You dont extend the hurt melted out to you to others.

It is not vengeance. It is wickedness.

As for the obsession with being Alpha male or female, understand that relationship is a joinder. Your partner is an extension of you and if your goal is to Lord over them and oppress them, you are in the wrong relationship.

Relationship is hardworking even on the best days.

Always put your best foot forward. Put your partner's interest at the fore. Do right by them for in nation building, we can only start from the home. When the home is right, it impacts the community and from there, grows into the larger society.

Highyime we deliberately stop creating a world of heartlessness and leaving people in more damaged States than we met them. We like to think we are smart and secfeatky brag about our misdeeds but we forget the ripple effect of the consequences.

Hurt people, hurt others.

I trust the God of all grace to help you find this love and when you have found it, do not lose it over fickle lustful desires.

Your family values should always trump your desire for sex and money.

In the end, everyone realizes, family matters most. Don't be late to the truth.

Under advisory, even healthy relationship will hurt you because our values are very different but you should always deliberately strive to do better and be accountable to your partner. If your partner is intentional and consistent with treating you poorly, please quit.

You accept the love you think you deserve. I hope you find it.

Peace, Love and Spaghetti 🍷