I'm treated as non-disabled until I can't cope any more and then I'm considered to be making a problem, over reacting, being dramatic, then there's misogynistic 'hormonal' 'must be on their period' etc (which hurts in a different way when you're non-binary). 1/
My struggles are usually considered my 'fault' too - I should be taking more rest, doing less around the house, doing fewer things I enjoy (that's a good one!?) but noone is ever there to actually *take* the pressure off. 2/
Even when people are well meaning it always boil down to how much time and effort I'm going to *cost* someone.
That's an awful way to go about in life. Awful and bloody exhausting.