Hardline GCs have been attacking Buck for a long time now. Like some of them have been going after him for years now. These attacks aren't new at all and misgendering has been among the mildest forms they take. He just refuses to learn that these transphobes will never change.
He knows he burned too many bridges with most other trans people at this point and he doesn't want to take responsibility for his past actions so he's stuck trying to convince GCs to try to be nice to him, which obviously hasn't been working out well for him.
Some GCs have been telling him how much they hate him and think he's part of the problem for at least two years now. He's had plenty of time to figure out that these people loath him and want nothing to do with him, even as a GC trans token.
Hardline GCs call him a "groomer" and accuse him of encouraging "young girls" to transition. They say his porn is making teens trans (and they've done hours of "research" watching his porn to come to this conclusion. What is it with GCs & trans porn?). I know he's seen this shit.
But he's refused to listen or see how eliminationist the GC movement really is. Many GCs won't even use the word "trans" because they think it's an "attack on reality" & he's trying to get them to use his pronouns? Dude, they think you're part of the "gender industry".
It's depressing to see someone refuse to learn from their mistakes and keep digging themselves deeper into a bad situation of their own creation. Like sure, Buck has internalized transphobia obviously but he's also just an asshole who won't take responsibility for his actions.
I remember all the years he set himself up as a gatekeeper of what counted as a "real" trans man and how people should transition (he was critical of transmascs holding fundraisers because it was "unmanly") and it seems like he can't admit that he fucked up with that approach.
He thought he was being a trans "voice of reason" but really he was helping create the conditions for an anti-trans hate movement to explode once the Right decided to attack trans people. Now he still can't admit he fucked up, even after so many people have turned on him.
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I became aware of transmasculine people and the possibility of medical transition when I was 15, back in 2000 or so. Not long after I came across the idea that afab people were transitioning because it was "trendy" and heard about "butch flight".
People have been scaremongering about transition being a trend, especially among afab people, for decades now. It's just transphobia, it's just a way to discourage transmasculine people and other trans people assigned female from transitioning and/or coming out as trans.
As someone who's both butch and trans and experienced significant body dysphoria, the whole panic about "butch flight" & "transition as a trend" really fucked with my head. Especially since my sense of gender can change day to day. How was I supposed to make sense of my feelings?
Most transphobic cis people knew that detransitioning didn't make me cis, but that wasn't the point. They knew I wasn't like them, they knew I was different, had dysphoria and so on. Being detransitioned meant I was a trans person brought under control and therefore "safe".
Being detrans meant I was a "de-fanged" trans person, they managed to get inside my head and "tame" me. For many transphobes, detransition is about controlling trans people. Part of the attraction is dominating someone who is different from them in ways that scare & disgust them.
Many transphobic cis people enjoy being cruel to trans people and it doesn't stop if we detransition. Detransitioned trans people are still seen as defective members of our assigned sex. Transphobes make it clear that you will never be as good as them, you'll never be equal.
I spent years basically being a "detrans influencer" creating propaganda to influence how transmasc and other afab trans people saw themselves, tried to encourage them not to transition or detransition and spreading transphobic feminist ideology and conversion practices.
There are online detrans groups that are intentionally trying to influence and recruit trans people. When I was a detrans rad fem, I went so far as to research social psychology to get inside people's heads better (which I now recognize as an incredibly fucked up thing to do).
But the cis people who are so concerned about people being influenced by social media & online trans communities don't care about how there are transphobic detrans groups that are intentionally trying influence trans people. That's because they approve of that kind of influence.
While I was still detrans, I started working through my own issues about transition and realized I'd been projecting onto trans people in ways that were harmful and dysfunctional. When I tried to talk about this publicly and take accountability, another detrans woman attacked me.
I made a video where I talked about how I realized I'd been projecting onto trans people and that this was harmful and rooted in my own personal problems. I apologized for causing harm. When I showed my video to the detrans lesbian I was dating at the time, she yelled at me.
I talked about how I had tried to influence transmasc people, tried to discourage them from transitioning, amd encourage them to "reconcile with being female" and how I now saw that as wrong, harmful & coming from my own unresolved issues. She found that part very threatening.
I recently found some emails from a therapist who reached out to me when I first started my old blog. They worked in trans health, thought there were too many AFAB people transitioning & wanted more psych screening. They wanted to use detrans people to argue for more gatekeeping.
I'd been detransitioning for under a year, not long enough to know if it was going work out for me in the long run, which it clearly didn't. I'd only been blogging for 2-3 months when this therapist contacted me. They never seemed to consider that I could change my mind again.
I detransitioned because I internalized a lot of transphobic ideas that ended up causing me a lot of suffering. A lot of what I said at the time I later ended up rejecting. Really I was a trans person about to make a lot of bad choices that I'm still recovering from.
There are whole online communities for transphobic parents like this where they give each other advice on how to do conversion practices on their trans child to get them to "desist". Some of these parents also protest clinics that help trans youth.
Obviously they have more control over youth who are under 18 but they also try to control adult children too and often complain about how their trans kid has "too much freedom" once they leave home, go to college, etc. Not surprisingly, a lot of their kids have cut them off.
These anti-trans parents want to shut down all access to medical transition and replace it with conversion "therapy". They work with conversion "therapists" and help start & support organizations like GENSPECT that promote anti-trans conversion "therapy" for trans youth.