Still investigating what it means to be semi-speaking and why it is that way.

A little thread. #ActuallyAutistic
It's not being able to produce enough words to satisfy allistic standards.

It's not being able to put a sentence together internally and speak it in time.

It's not being able to pass the internal quality filter.

It's being blank despite the pressure or necessity to speak.
It's only being able to contribute an interjection or answer yes/no questions.

It's knowing what the person wants to hear but not being able to summon it.

It's being too busy processing other things, other "channels", being unable to taskswitch in time.
It's being mislabeled "shy" my whole life, even though it was more than that.

It's being curled up in the corner at every family gathering, not saying a thing for hours on end.

It's every single teacher complaining in my report about the same thing -- never talking.
It's every single teacher assuming that my quietness equated to a lack of understanding.

It's a total lack of friendships, or intermittent friendships, because friendship required speaking.

It's friendship exhaustion from having to perform speech to keep the friendship afloat.
It's nobody knowing my opinions, nobody knowing my personality, nobody knowing anything about me, because that requires conversation.

It's being the awkward presence in the room.

It's kinder allistics asking for my input if I've been quiet for too long, hoping I'll join in.
It's people getting shocked if I swear or do something rebellious because they assume shy people are infantile.

It's failing my work experience week because I can't generate enough speech for a phone call or customer service.
It's the fear of being stranded somewhere or something unpredictable happening with no familiar helper nearby, because I can't initiate talk with strangers.

It's scripting important situations in advance because I can't rely on improvising.
Once I gained the tech to communicate digitally (social media, texts, emails) it felt like I had sprouted wings.

Long albatross wings that could finally carry the weight and breadth of my thoughts.

#ActuallyAutistic

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Feb 14
Just realized that nuclear fusion is an accurate metaphor for #ActuallyAutistic school refusal/non-attendance.

I exerted vast amounts of energy, designing my whole life around this routine, only for a miniscule amount of learning to be generated in return.
The morning routine, the journey to school, being in school, the journey home, and the long recovery period took an obscene amount of time and energy from me.

All of it, in fact.

And the required recovery time was longer than the time available to me.
Say I need a few days to recover from a day of phyiscally being at school ...

I only had a few hours after school. Hours that also required me to eat, do homework, clean myself. I didn't have the energy because of school so those areas deteriorated.

Eternal burnout.
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Feb 14
💔 I keep feeling this heartbreak that allistics want to eradicate me. They only want an allistic planet. They consider me to be deficient, broken, sub-human and requiring "prevention" from existing.

#ActuallyAutistic
Allistics' sense of supremacy is so ironic. They exhibit deficits in so many things, like tolerance, imagination, empathy, rationality, sensory joy, systematizing.

And yet they consider me the deficient one. They're foolish and arrogant.
I can humanize an inanimate object, but allistics can't humanize an actual flesh person like me.

They consider me to have some pieces missing. 50% human, 50% deficit void where the allistic bits should be.

Who has a theory of mind deficit?
Who's the narrow-minded one?
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Feb 13
Verbal instructions from me to myself : absolutely necessary for overcoming ADHD inattention and Autistic inertia

Verbal instructions from other people : huh?

#ActuallyAutistic #adhdtwitter
Sometimes I'm oblivious while doing a task because I'm busy fixating on a thought stream, then realize I've finished a task but can't remember what I just did.

So I have to look around me and declare to myself what I just did.

"I just ate dinner."

#adhdtwitter
Then I can feel that sense of completion and relief knowing I can now let go of my attention on this task, decompress, and think about my next step.

Task-switching is so difficult when 1) you perseverate on whatever you're doing and 2) can't remember what you just did.
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Feb 12
Centenarians/supercentenarians are one of my special interests but the recommendations for a long life are always frustrating.

It's basically, "be neurotypical, abled and don't be a marginalized person". In her research into German...
Many autistics are introverted (either naturally or exogenic due to trauma), awkward, multiply & repeatedly traumatized, terrified in social situations, and unable to adapt to a hostile, rigid and inaccessible allistic society.

We are passionate, goal oriented & creative though.
"Adaptation strategies" is a bit of a normative dog whistle. Literally everything you do in life is an adaptation strategy. But the dominant culture/neurotype decides which adaptation strategies are valid.

Stimming is a healthy adaptation strategy but is rejected as abnormal.
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Feb 3
If my age 14 burnout, in which I "regressed" and lost all of my functioning skills, had happened when I was 4 years old, I would have been diagnosed as #ActuallyAutistic in a heartbeat.

In my case, the only difference between "high functioning" and "profound" Autism, is age.
A seemingly functional 14 year old girl with an advanced reading age, doing well in all her subjects, previously a "delight to have" etc ...

... gradually became a non-verbal school refuser who didn't bathe, barely ate, had no friends.
And I still haven't gained those skills back, 11 years later. I am permanently in the "low functioning" camp that allistics are obsessed with.

I can't live an independent life beyond my front door, can't do social tasks, still don't bathe, never finished school & am NEET.
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Feb 2
This was something neurotypical schooling just didn't get. I couldn't wake up twenty minutes before school like other people, even if it had been across the road (it wasn't).

I needed 2 hours to process the sensory discomfort of every morning task & mentally prepare for school.
I'd wake up at 4am, after just a couple of hours sleep due to delayed sleep phase; spend two hours getting ready; leave at 6am.

I needed to get there early before it got too busy. I needed to be at my quiet spot in the library before 8am.
If I woke up late, I refused school because

1) it made my 2 hour routine impossible to go through, and

2) being late was traumatic. Curious eyeballs from students and angry adults punishing you. Anxiety attack fodder.

#ActuallyAutistic
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