Today I spoke w/ @hackneycouncil Early Years Staff about how to help young children self-regulate. I did that by sharing w/ them what settings have been doing over Covid. A brief THREAD to share this info more widely.
2. @PitteucharE, led by @JKnussen, have been sure to use the language of 'distressed behaviour', rather than the conventional language of 'challenging behaviour'. Simple change. Free. No forms required to be completed. 🙂
3. And LOOK at the difference it makes - simply telling the story of what one school @PitteucharE is doing to support children's emotions. This is the feedback from attendees in London. "So simple, but I can see how transformative it could be for staff and for children."
4. Here's Angels & Co Nursery in Aberdeen. They paid attention to partings. The adaptations made to Drop Off procedures during Covid hv stressed childrn. And parents. I know we think we needed to do ths. But we should not DENY to ourselves the distress this has caused families.
5. The scene in that last tweet comes frm a set of video resources my team at @connectedbaby made for Early Years Teams. Those videos look closely at childrn's experiences of parting &reunions. They are intended for training &CPD sessions. Here's the link. connectedbaby.net/product/tigers…
5. Here's @LullabyLaneWest . They have built yoga into the daily rhythm of their nursery. Led by @AshMcCann1, they've learned how daily practice helps the children to be aware of their own bodies. It makes you ask: Why is such practice still relatively uncommon in Early Years?
6. In fact, the @TIGERSEYAcad came to feel so strongly about the importance of body-awareness for young children that they created the 'Calming Tigers' service. It helps other early years teams to think about what they can do to embed it in practice.
7. And for the older ones? The children leaving their EY setting? @LullabyLaneMiln did something edgy during Covid. They did NOT cancel their Leaving Ceremony, as was so common. They held it anyway, Covid-safe, because they had learned how much transition rituals matter.
8. I believe it was hearing real-life stories of courage that led to feedback like this: "I reflected on how much t world around us has an impact on our childrn." YES. Many of our children left beloved EY carers in t summer without being able to say good-bye. That's grief.
9. And finally, what else can we do to support childrn's self-regulatory capacities? MAKE SURE THE ADULTS are helped to self-regulate. You can't pour from an empty vessel. START WITH ADULTS' NEEDS. Childrn's 'bad behaviour' is often a result of tired, overwhelmed, grumpy adults.
10/end. I hope t teams I hv talked abt can see their impact. There are so many other ideas&settings I didn't hv time to mention. And right now I need to get back to t Conf to hear t fab @MineEYMind speak. So I'll leave you w/ her superb book.
Thanks for #FierceCuriosity, folks.
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Attachmnt Theory was, in its very origins, political. It was concerned w/ t emotional capacities needed for a 'democratic self'. A THREAD about why those insights matter now.
I read aloud frm this book last night at #DaringVentures, so ths is me now rippling out that knowldge.
2. The war in Ukraine has become a fight for democracy itself. I am readng many posts abt t thinkng of Russians, Belarussians, Germans now vs 1930s, obstructive UK leadership. All of this is relevant to Shapira's book. Democracy is not just a political systm. It is psychological.
3. "We know more about Soviet, Nazi, fascist selves than we do about the democratic self....Our basic notions of a normal self in a democratic society are taken for granted."
I'm watchng numerous posts askng "Why is t UK govt stoppng refugee Ukrainians at t border in France whn they are married to UK nationals?" I think @BeardRichard on 'Private Schools & The Ruin of England' offers insights. So here's a THREAD. I do think everybody shd read ths book.
2. In case those posts haven't come across your Timeline, here's one frm @KenboStewart, who has a 2 week infant son in t car with him. And a Ukrainian wife. He has referred to t UK govt as a "heartless bunch" with "zero compassion" for Ukrainian refugees.
3. Okay, so how did we end up with a "heartless govt"? That's what @BeardRichard is trying to help us understand in his book on boarding school. A boy who boarded himself, he tries to show us HOW emotions of care & empathy were *intentionally* squashed by that system.
“What do you need for a trauma-informed school?” That was the title of my talk today, t very first live since lockdown!!, w/ 35 staff at @MillofMainsPS in Dundee. Here’s a THREAD on t range of trauma-attentive things they are ALREADY doing to support their childrn.
2. First, what does a GROUP of gathered staff look like?? THIS!! In their brand new, never-before-used Community Hall! #Honoured We came up with ideas for all sorts of community events, to ripple out the insights of today to parents & others, didnt we @geordiepeaches ? 😀
3. New teacher: “I’ve been using cards I made up to let the kids choose how to regulate. They only took me a few minutes to make. They’ve saved me hours of time. It’s like a way for them to tell me what they need even in midst of big emotions.”
Me: “Do you have them handy?”
Should schools hv a Belonging Policy? or Relationship Policy? or a Behaviour Policy? That was t debate on my timeline ystrdy. I thought maybe a THREAD on ATTACHMENT STYLES wd help in navigatng this territory. A 'sense of belonging' sounds cozy, but t biology isn't straightforwrd.
2. John Bowlby's Attachment Theory has been w/ us since t 1930s, but it is still not well understd in professionl systems or t public. That's because it is counter-cultural, complex & has (like all good theories) been critiqued. I'm glad #ACEs has renewed attn to it.
3. Attachmnt is NOT about children. It is about human beings. It is part of our biology - like lungs & hearts. We are BIOLOGICALLY WIRED to NEED CONNECTION in order to thrive emotionlly. At extremes, without enough connection, human babies die. bettercarenetwork.org/news-updates/n…
A surprising number of ppl hv said they've found my recent threads on emotions & Boarding School Survivors to be helpful. So I will just keep thm going, continuing to draw on @axrenton book.
How does knowng more abt this help us make sense of current Westminster chaos? A THREAD.
2. It was a friend who convinced me to keep talking abt this. She texted me this msg: “Yes, most people are baffled by what they see played out at Westminster.”
What we are watchng is a dangerous culture of unleashed emotional trauma. That means HARM is done to others: citizens.
3. Yes, I know there is entitlement going on. Masses of it. But what I think what gets missed is that t sense of entitlmnt is grounded in relational trauma. If most of us don't know much abt elite boardng school culture, how can we see t origins of trauma? @axrenton helps us SEE.
A THREAD on Emotional Containment.
I've just spotted ths post on @jebrittan2 FB page for Boarding School Survivors. I've realised most ppl may not recognise the CONTAINMENT happening in this moment. Mum Diana is helping her child cope with his anxiety by singing together.
2. CONTAINMENT is a physiological process. Whn another person helps you w/ yr worries, it has a biological impact. You feel safer. It isn't as scary. Your body doesn't slip so quickly into overwhelm. After overwhelm comes dissociation. It's too uncomfortable to 'stay' in yr body.
3. The concept of Containment was introduced by psychologists Bion & Winnicott. It is really valuable in understanding what children (people!) need when they are struggling. The responsiveness of another person helps make big feelings more 'tolerable'. c-f-g.co.uk/blog/10-the-co…