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Mar 8 15 tweets 3 min read
I think the rise of women in white collar crime (Chitra Ramakrishna, Chanda Kocchar) is a far greater indicator of women's equality than women achievers. It's only when women are free to be as culpable as men we've got somewhere. discard the goody two shoes woman boss trope.
women try too hard. this whole women achievers thing is a set up so you quantify in terms of profit why you should be given some respect. if a woman says eff your respect. im going to live as I choose to, she's sidelined. wake up. you're being rewarded for complying.
by all means achieve. by all means accept praise. but if the set up is that the more you rise within a patriarchally defined framework the more you will be rewarded, ask what that rising will require of you. who set the rules. who will be pleased and do the awarding?
and most importantly, what are the consequences if you break the rules? if you don't show up 'elegant' 'handling it all' 'work life balance' never take a 'mental health day' never show your emotions and worst - never fail. if those are the rules, keep your awards for the men.
praise that is for work is for work regardless of gender. when gender is raised by capitalists, (let's be clear women labourers on work sites & in fields are not being awarded on international women's day) it's because someone is benefiting from your entry into the work force.
you become a unit in their machinery for whatever reason. board seats to be filled, diversity quota, CSR budget for women's issues, etc etc. and simply, they need more women in the workforce because there is a skilled labour shortage. women have higher or equal rates of edn
but you get bargained down by the expectations. Interview questions like 'can you manage home responsibilities with work?' 'are you planning to have kids?' 'can you work late nights' are *designed* to let you know you're a liability cos of your gender & to bargain down your cost
you are *owed* equal pay. your are *owed* your right to your emotions. you are *owed* your maternity benefits. you are *owed* your right to make mistakes. you are *owed* your right to grumble at the workload. men get away with goofing off all the time.
so, all this women's day BS. why are corporates so desperately sponsoring fests, handing out awards, patting women on the back, sending press releases out 10 per hour? what's in it for them? it's either a whole lot of money spent on flattery, or it gets them something
you are not valuable because of your gender. you may also not be devalued on the other 364 days because of your gender. instead of accepting an award or drawing some office rangoli, ask the office to declare male and female salaries. see how they react then
ask the office to do a computation of men taking cigarette breaks or 'meeting in a bar after work' and compute it as overtime/out of office activity that makes it inaccessible to women. see how they react then.
ask for childcare faciilities, or better still, a women's union? (they will FLIP)
the tinsel exists so you won't look at the cracks in the wall.
want to celebrate #internationalwomensday ask your office management to define in no uncertain terms what it means to be a woman according to them, and to define what they're doing to honour that, if they really mean it. good luck to them
else it's just a stupid effiin day.
increase in (praise of) women achievers (by patriarchal systems) just shows that more women are being inducted into the patriarchal set up as 'good women'. which basically means compliance is rising. terrifying. women are not setting the rules until they're breaking the rules.

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