If you feel defensive at something you’ve read online I would encourage you to examine that defensiveness closely and see what isn’t yours to carry.
Often times I find myself becoming g defensive towards things that aren’t about me or my actions whatsoever.
Other times I find myself becoming defensive over the regrets and shame I have had at not having done “better”.
Other times I find myself becoming defensive over the regrets and shame I have had at not having done “better”.
What I wish for all defensiveness is compassion, forgiveness, grace and support.
I think what’s most critical in experiencing defensiveness is to do an internal audit check if you have actually heard the root of what someone is expressing.
Words have so much nuance, and as someone who English is a second language, I have assumptions about words and connotations that just simply aren’t shared by other people.
My favorite moments are when someone helps me to see more clearly what I was trying to express to begin with.
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