Just a reminder that Focus on the Family is okay with destroying your kids as long as YOU stay married.
They know their articles on kids and divorce are wrong and misleading, but they don't fix or remove them.
Can I give evidence for that? Yes I can. 1. Focus on the Family's article on pedophilia discourages divorce and actually says "God hates divorce," but not "God hates child abuse." Really. 😠 lifesavingdivorce.com/fotfpedophilia
More evidence: 2. This Focus on the Family article (that suggests divorce universally destroys kids) removes words from researchers' quotes, changing the meaning completely. They do it 3 times. #fraudlifesavingdivorce.com/fotfbisignano
3. Here Focus on the Family vilifies all divorcees as selfish and wanting the easy way out, without making any exception for domestic violence, serial adultery, or pedophilia. 🤨 lifesavingdivorce.com/fotfdivorce1
(By the way, there's no byline on the Focus on the Family pedophilia article. Too ashamed? Too scared? To afraid of being sued?)
How do I know they know? They blocked me on Facebook when I've posted them.
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Why we married bad spouses despite seeing "red flags." [THREAD]
1. The person we married covered up their bad behavior. They didn't reveal it. If exposed, they excused it.
2. Being in love is intoxicating. We didn't want to see it.
3. We had no idea how bad it could become.
4. We were given dozens of messages that marriage would fix them. They'd settle down, they'd become more loving, they'd be more committed. The ring on their finger would mean something to them.
5. We were told to "forgive and forget." We weren't allowed reject them as a mate.
6. Once we forgave, we weren't allowed to count that incident. It was as if it never happened. They cheated? You forgave? The tally is back to zero. They have to cheat again (and in worse ways!) for you to get out.
@5pointpastor@Pat_Doucet Yes, thank you for being charitable in this conversation. I care about both men and women victims. I focus on behavior a bit more than labels. I've seen people decide not to divorce as a result of coming to my groups, and I applaud that too.
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@5pointpastor@Pat_Doucet Certainly there are victims that wish their church had "forced" the abusive to behave better. That's an impossible task. The best the Puritans could do was to fine abusers, and eventually okay divorces. I don't think the church gets a vote.
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@5pointpastor@Pat_Doucet Churches in general are places for spiritual nurturing; we are not trained forensic investigators. We aren't neutral. We are easy to manipulate. We don't have the discipline to interview 20 witnesses. We don't follow rules of evidence. We aren't experts in psychology.
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