Adopted children in England at least go to their adoptive home with their ‘life story book’. They know who their biological parents are and many will seek them out when older.
https://twitter.com/_dave_doherty/status/1504558936392929280
This does not mean of course that adoptive parents are not ‘real parents’. But most of us are interested in who made us, the two people who each contributed DNA. Male and female.
This doesn’t mean, of course, that a baby born of a surrogate mother won’t have a long and happy life with the parents who paid for him or her. But your mother is not nothing. She made half of you, she gestated all of you. Her voice was the first you heard.
I do not think we should have this unreflective response to commercial surrogacy, that it’s all marvellous. I think there are real ethical dilemmas.
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