Let's talk about simple etiquettes while living with someone.
Whether it is your friend, a family member or an acquaintance, it is so common to fall into a bad pattern at home. This often leads to underlying resentment and unnecessary negativity.
1. When you're being housed for free, you must understand that not many people are
INFINITELY nice. Sooner or later, you'll cross a line you never knew was there and the negativity begins. To avoid this, ask your host(s) what's expected of you: Curfew, household chores, etc
2. Except otherwise stated by your host, do not eat the last piece or portion of the meal in the kitchen. If you want to eat an apple and there's just one left, let it go. If there's one more piece of meat left in the pot, do not touch it.
3. Contribute to the upkeep of the home, no matter how small.
The only reason for not contributing to the purchase of grocery in the house should be that you're dead broke. If not, as much as you can afford to, buy things that the home needs and then extra if you can.
4. Respect your host's space and do not go around snooping.
You shouldn't be going through anyone's things, it is highly disrespectful. At the very least, you will have broken the trust of the person whose privacy you invaded. No one wants to willingly live with trust issues.
5. Try saying a SINCERE thank you more often to your host. If you let someone know how much you appreciate what he or she has done for you, they are far more likely to continue to do it. If you don't, they may think you have not noticed or are taking it for granted.
6. Watch out for your hosts' idiosyncrasies: If you catch them turning off the lights at every opportunity, do the same. If the generator doesn't come on before 7 PM, don't turn it on-without permission- before 7 Pm.
Be mindful of the silent rules.
7. If you begin to feel resentful and you can't leave -especially when feelings have been hurt-talk with your host. Be honest about how you feel, apologise where you're wrong and ask for a better way to live more amicably.
8. You may do some of these things and you're still made to feel uncomfortable. This means you have overstayed your welcome. Yes, the host may be wrong on so many levels but what can you do really?
If you have options, leave.
When you're being housed, do your best not to leave a sour taste in the mouth of your host.
Create a peaceful environment for yourself and your host. The grass is greener where you water it. #DANG
Let’s get Kam’s handsomeness out of the way real quick because what???
So strong, so kind. Those eyes of his portray a good heart and pure fondness for Sasha Snow. I knew he would change his mind about Singapore, he looked like a man who wasn’t ready to lose a second chance.
I wonder, would Kam have been satisfied with the secret boyfriend arrangement? If it was a woman who was asked to do that, wouldn’t we say she was settling for less?
However, here’s what I know: the best love comes with sacrifices, no power tussle, and willingness to give FIRST.
It was 2008, I got this amazing job as a receptionist at an Oil&Gas firm.
I realised the MD of the company was female and this didn’t make me feel some type of way, I was there to do a job. So, I did my job. I told myself I’d be the best receptionist ever.
Every day, I’d watch this woman walk past the reception desk, looking expensive, and simple.
I loved it so much. She would wear a t-shirt tucked into wide pants and then adorn her neck with a tennis necklace and diamond studs. She was tall and preferred to keep her weave short. I was impressed but what impressed me most was her work ethic.
I’ve received many DMs and responses to question tags regarding how many women are stuck in a relationship where their partners refuse to cut ties with their exes, especially the ones where the situation does not feel right to you.
So, today, I’ll share my experience about this.
I was with someone whom I knew was in constant communication with his ex. He said the relationship was over but he valued the friendship with his ex and wanted to maintain it. I’m an adult, I know that a relationship can be over and irredeemable. Still,
it doesn’t mean there was never love there and that feelings disappear overnight. Bearing this in mind, I didn’t complain immediately.
Another reason for not speaking up earlier was because he is a great guy and part of his top priority was to make me happy as much as he could.
I have watched “Elesin Oba” and I do not blame the people who expected entertainment but got confused instead.
I am an art student, who majored in literature, I understand the movie, seeing as I’ve read the book.
However, when filmmakers adapt plays into motion pictures,
they must imagine that no one has read the book and for that reason, simplify the story to an acceptable extent and give the story better artistic expression.
Real intellectual art can be entertaining too. I believe this is where we must take serious lessons from Hollywood.
Odunlade’s acting was TOP NOTCH, he gave us all the feels.
I watched to the end and I knew that this wouldn’t be a widely
accepted movie.
Still, for once, Ebony Life chose not a make a commercial movie, and even though only a few people will understand the movie,
Online and offline, I got you. Let me give you quick gist about how I hung out with Dang! Community members last night in Budapest and I tried my best to help them solve a quick problem but it ended in “AH!”
As you may have seen on my Insta story, My friend and I went Pub crawling last night with our handsome tour guide, Levi. We were joined by two other DANG! Members. They are a delight I must tell you.
As we arrived at the 3rd club, one of them said, “Ife, look at that cute guy,
we were on the same flight with him but he was forming.”
I looked across me and saw the duke mixed with Michael B Jordan but taller. Smooth dark chocolate.
Yeeeeeee.
I gathered the girls and moved them closer to where he was, to ri pe may be out of sight is out of mind, abi?
In 2007, I borrowed money from a friend - N9,000. It was a lot of money for me back then. I had exhausted my borrowing and dashing Grace from my siblings so I had to fall back on a friend to loan me some money.
I was going to pay her back from my allowee.
However, life happened and I couldn’t return the money in full when I promised I would. I told her. “Please let me give you 5k now and balance the remaining next month.” She disagreed and said she wanted all her money at once and immediately,she didn’t want to “spoil” the money.
I kept the 5k I had and suffered through the month while I avoided her numerous calls. I just wanted the month to end so I could pay her back. I remember sending her a text, promising her that the 5k I had would not be touched and I couldn’t pick her calls because I was ashamed.