Thread by @Kudu_ze_Kudu

A lot of people spend most of their lives away from their families and homes that they barely build a community around them. They become visitors of their own homes. Things that used to hold people who live around together don’t do that much anymore. Weddings, funerals conducted

far from home. Where one builds their house to call home is not where they live. So, you have this group of people who have spent most of their lives away from home for years and suddenly they have to build a home and make it work with those within it and around it.

Kids spend years in boarding schools away from home and holidays are for visiting relatives again away from home. For years & suddenly they get to university and have the new found freedom in their hostels and home becomes somewhere they visit when they can; again AWAY FROM HOME

Out of UNI now in job search now you are forced to stay home where you feel like a stranger; a stranger to your own family because at the most important time of your growth you spent more with outsiders than insiders. You confide to them than to your own blood. The transition

From moving like a herd of sheep from one level to another; makes you feel invisible and gives you a sense of belonging. You know; Barbro Johansson Form IV class of 2012, Mazinde Juu Form VI class of 2015 or HKMU MD class of 2020; you move like a swarm of bees; looking left and

right there are common faces moving with you. And suddenly it’s like the group is scattered and each sheep has to fend for themselves. And here is where some sheep fall into wells and never get out; some starve to death, some get lost into the mountain in search of food until

their bodies can barely move as the wool has overgrown around their body.
You have to pick up the envelope and search on your own. And many get lost here. Especially now that everyone is doing live updates of their lives everywhere; every great moment, every achievement is seen.

At some point this transition is repeated later in life during retirement; after decades of working together with people you are left to go fend for yourself at your old age. Like thank you for your service, now go get busy with livestock, gardening, farming and grandkids if any.

Suddenly you’re back trying to fit in a place that you spent less time with and after many hours that turned into years spent in your practice serving outsiders; the insiders barely know you. You can barely hold a conversation with them, y’all literally strangers to each other.

This transition is always hard to many. Because it is human nature to want to belong. Unfortunately, we do less to cultivate relationships and build interpersonal connections with those who are blood and will probably be at our deathbeds.

It is during these two phases of transition where self-doubt and regrets kick in. Lost opportunities flashbacks, wishes for better ones cloud your mind and dilemma because you are terrified if the path you choose is actually the right one. But that is life my friend.

This is a reminder to love and be involved with your family and those who live around you. Be kind. Hold conversations. Invest in people. During the transition is where you will be wondering what is the right choice for you; for the moment and for a long time. It is hard.

With online communities, many are drawn even further from those next to them in a bid to connect with those hundreds of miles away from them.
Why? Because here, one can build their community effortlessly by bonding with similar interest and forming mobs to boost their ego.

We all are playing ana ana doo with life. We measure the risk and take it all head on; hoping the weight don’t crush you.
Take your time to prepare for the transition from the herd to a lone sheep.
#LateNightThoughts

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