It's only polite to offer your& houseguests plenty of writing instruments in many thicknesses and colours. One never knows when they might need to hold an impromptu meeting to decide what to wear for the day.
Employers should consider work from home a plural accommodation. It's a burden to pack myriad lunches when y'all are plural, this is why so many plurals prefer to work from home.
When getting a holiday gift for another system's children, make sure that it's a gift that lends itself to sharing or team play such as a craft kit or puzzle. This way all the unknown system kids can be included as well.
Not every system likes to be asked whom is fronting. This is something for which there's no blanket etiquette. Asking whether they prefer to be asked, however, is.
Should you find yourself accompanying a plural to an amusement park or ice cream parlour, be prepared to be their responsible adult supervision for a while.
The ampersand is a glyph from the Latin "et" or and. It used to be a letter of the alphabet, after "zed and, per se, and". The ampersand is either a symbol of plurality, or engagements (i.e. weddings).
When you visit a plural's home, be prepared for more than the usual singular person's clutter. When you think about it, it's a miracle so many people can share such a small space together without it being worse.
@CarolAnneGraha4 PTSD has nothing to do with sanity. It's a bodily survival response.
If you are OK and don't have PTSD, awesome.
I see a lot of unresolved/unaddressed grief & fear out there. When we know what to look for, it becomes more obvious.
@CarolAnneGraha4 Of course not everyone has PTSD. What I'm seeing is a lot of people acting like the last 3 years didn’t happen (denial, dissociation, amnesia) & others getting irrationally angry (emotional dysregulation) at strangers for wearing masks in public.
@CarolAnneGraha4 Seeing people being avoidant and depressed/upset at being left behind by society and excluded from socializing because others cannot mask because for them masking and seeing masks has become a PTSD trigger…
@drsajumathew Everyone wants to make it all go away, forget it ever happened. Even though it's still here & not gone.
A major flaw: humans make the policies, decisions, politics, choices, coverage, etc.
PTSD, dissociation & avoidance is very human.
@drsajumathew We can't see or sense a virus. But we can see masks. Masks become a trigger for the terror, uncertainty, helplessness, mass deaths, isolation, and unresolved grief, pain or memories of being sick & afraid of dying.
People forget, because they want to forget.
@drsajumathew PTSD unfortunately won't let them forget. They can avoid masks, & not understand why masks make them upset. But masks are just the trigger for the unresolved trauma. The brain & body do this. Masks now are associated with danger.
"Trauma-informed" doesn't mean writing papers about how to work on trauma with clients, or dissecting trauma under a microscope.
Trauma-informed means practicing consent, understanding accommodations & triggers, listening instead of talking,
asking "What happened to you?" rather than "What's wrong with you?" — creating a safe(r) environment, asking what someone needs to feel safe(r), listening to victims when they say there's something wrong, removing shame-inducing practices, & more.
Someone being a trauma specialist actually does not automatically include their practice being trauma-informed. This is extremely important for our community. Someone can be very trauma-informed & gentle without being specialized in trauma,
We've put a finger on one reason Steve Porges' dismissal of sexual abuse accusations via somatic flashbacks is exceptionally & chillingly offensive. He, of all people, founding theories of ancient brain/body structures of survival should have known better.
Our survival response is coded in ancient brain structures; it predates humanity by millions of years. It knows no language. The brain is largely a predictive storage device: we think of or smell food, it sends signals to salivate & start digestive services.
The brain learns fire burns & we reflexively withdraw if we are given sensory information that something is hot. We use this signaling to fool ourselves sometimes: the recommendation to smile consciously because it actually changes brain signals.
At current prices it costs me $4.10/day to run my A/C all day & night (Upstate NY). $2.74 running it only the hottest parts of the day (my usual unless nighttime temperatures or humidity necessitates running it all night). $127 max to run it all month.
We have a very unstable income; on level billing we'll pay for unpredicted overages over the winter so Today Crisses is setting Later Crisses up for ouch bills this winter. We use fans as much as possible.
Our spreadsheet translating Watts (or amps * 120 volts for US outlets) times minutes divided by 60 = KWH so we can figure out costs. We update current charges, it spits out costs. A 84W fan is costing $0.41/day for comparison. #ActuallyAutistic