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There is a disturbing “coaching bias” that I see rampant on LinkedIn re workplace wellness

This bias says “the experience and insight I’ve had that helps me will help you”

It’s not necessarily wrong

the certainty of the coach w their personalized, generalized advice #NoGood
The delivery of this advice is always storytelling about their experience, their pain, their learning, their resolution

The stories are well written and compelling

The advice seems reasonable

But their advice, generalized for all as “better ways” is laced w #distortion

/2
Example #wellness leader here explains the fallacy of “I’m not passionate about this job. I need to quit”

Seeking passion in a job creates pathological “seeking” reports the communications and marketing pro turned wellness coach

/3 Image
I would prefer more nuance, variation, discernment from the workplace wellness crowd

People are very, very different in wonderful & complex ways

These pithy quips of “packaged resilience” diminish the process of individual discovery and unique humanity

can be #harmful

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More from @sbuehler

Jun 10
#embodied projections and identifications are “how animals speak”

similar to #EmotionalContagion dynamics

these are adaptive, high speed signals that travel “faster” than thoughts

remember: cortex slows
They are really “embodied action patterns”

- hominid mammals in groups
- alive biology on Earth

Bring a legacy of “ancient wisdom” re:

- how to stay alive
- how to live in groups

Add modern context, social media
… but no “animal” has been removed from us b/c we “think”
The polyvagal ppl (I am not one) categorize these behaviors along fight-flight-freeze-fawn-blah-blah

It’s right in that frame

I personally prefer Panksepp

+ modern society adaptations

Framed in culture, family, geography

… this is “unconscious” to “the rational mind”
Read 5 tweets
Jun 10
For the “transference” to “work” that means

- affective, non-conscious
- primitive, relational
- chaotic, unsafe
- distressing, unsettling

#feelings

Are “integrated” aka

- felt
- experienced
- mentalized
- embodied
- made conscious
- slowed down

Not with “thoughts”
For this to occur in a therapeutic dyad

some combination of all these instruments, in dynamic symphony

- differentiating
- joining
- asserting
- listening
- waiting
- speaking

all #embodied
#embodied projective dynamics are akin to fluid dynamics, or sometimes what is seen in gravitational fields

Quick primer
- diffuse
- rigid
- motile
- dense

Are examples of descriptors of #embodiment

Actually layers and layers of different qualities of your own embodiment
Read 10 tweets
Apr 2
"A felt sense is an embodied experience of a whole situation (or other attended-to “object” such as a work of art, a theory, a relationship) that exists before words or other symbols."

- Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin
"A felt sense is a fresh, immediate, here-and-now experience that is actually the organism forming its next step in a person’s lived situation. A felt sense is experiencing forming itself, and it can be sensed."

- Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin
"Images, emotions, moods, even many thoughts are experienced in and from the body, where “body” is not separate from mind. In this experienced body, we can touch directly what is preconceptual—not already divided into formed concepts."

- Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin
Read 5 tweets
Mar 27
a little more about an important distinction imo

re the "purpose" of emotion

quick 🧵👇
2/ emotion activates

and what it activates depends on

- you
- your environment

with that "you" & "environment"
being very very complex

... so the PROBLEM here is
3/ intelligence & study create certainty

our esteemed book writing psychologist, pontificating free wisdom

operates as

- a person
- in a context
- with a history
- and certain learnings

that smart, studious people tend to universalize and/or prosethetize
Read 8 tweets
Mar 26
This is an example of “echo chamber” #distortion that is pervasive in #OD and #leadership

quick 🧵👇🏼
1/ “on 100 senior leaders are telling us”

I’m sure these 100 senior leaders believe what they say about team effectiveness and their own personality
2/ research reports on what it actually measures

which might be nothing, or pure bullshit

So the best research about executives, that executives will want to purchase, is research that gives them validation like “leadership is a team sport”
Read 4 tweets
Mar 24
🔔Reminder

world famous experts can totally miss the point & unintentionally use their status to proliferate pseudo-correct info as they assume their frameworks are 💯 correct

or

“The value of writing things down we hear or read CAN BE overstated”

example and 🧵👇🏼 Image
As I understand their point:

The motor aspects of writing, when coupled with the real-time granular activity of listening and while “trying to understand” alchemizes learning in powerful ways

Me:

Yes absolutely true

/2
Also me:

would you recommend this method to “write what you hear” b/c “the value cannot be overstated” to

- a opera singer
- a juggler
- person w no arms
- person who can’t write

No? must be out of luck then b/c of this magical “writing” that humans invented recently

/3
Read 8 tweets

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