Thread by @irenemcho

It's beyond imp for all #Enneagram folks to knw of the abusive predatory behavior of #ChrisHeuertz.
33 courageous women hve come fwd to brk dwn the wall of silence tht's been protecting him until now 1/20
#Metoo #ChurchToo #TimesUp
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But now is the time for these women's stories to be heard. Some of you will read this piece and have several thoughts that ALWAYS come up whn the issue of abuse comes up:
1) This sounds vindictive and vengeful
2) I know said abuser, he/she could never do anything like tht 2/20

3) He's married. Why would he need other women? They're so happy together
4) His wife/spouse is supporting him, standing by, denies anything ever happened, if s/he knew, they'd say something
5) The board wld've knwn but no one said anything? How's that possible 3/20

6) He didn't ACTUALLY assault anyone. They just misunderstood his intentions. It's so unsafe to even be friendly, mentor, help another person out.
7) This is why men & women shld never wrk together. It's unsafe for men these days. The #MeToo movement has ruined everything 4/20

8) Wht're these women afraid of? He didnt actually assault or rape thm. It's all in their imagination.
9) We shld wait bc making any judgment. We knw the stories of false accusations made by women.
10) They shld be flattered he cared
11) They just want $$ 5/20

There are many more, but these are some of the common top arguments and thoughts given when first hearing abt someone you admire or respected as an abuser. I know, I've said the same things when Cosby's first accusers came forward. I didn't want to believe it 6/20

But this is what patriarchy and toxic masculinity has given us. This is how deeply ingrained the sexism is. This is what celebrity culture does. We put all faith and trust in those we put on pedestals and believe the PR facade given to us 7/20

But let's break it down
1) The women took the time bf spking up. Some of the women have been holding their experience for yrs. They've had to spend $$ on therapy, endure psychological/emotional duress. Have difficult convos w respective spouses 8/20

2) They didn't bring this up randomly but collectively weighed the cost and risk of what it would mean coming forward.
3) They aren't seeking financial gain for anything they're bringing up.
4) They just want the truth to be known and coming fwd means more women will 9/20

feel safe to do the same.
5) Whn there are this many ppl coming fwd, this isn't a one off incident. This is predatory abusive behavior.
6) Chris has made a statement, which brking how trashy it is needs a diff thread. He's turned off twitter comments frm the public 10/20

This is abusive behavior 101. Why turn off commenting? If you have nothing to hide, if you claim transparency, as you did in your statement, why not allow the public to spk?
7) He's deleting neg comments on other platforms to make sure only positive favorable ones are shown 11/20

This is not how one who has written books on how to act towards others should be acting himself. Ask yourself why this is.
So where do we go from here? How do we move forward? 12/20

1) BELIEVE WOMEN. I can't stress this enough. It takes so much courage and strength to come forward and speak out against someone so respected and loved by the community. The scrutiny, criticism, judgment, skepticism, doubt, and shame given by the public. Stop perpetuating 13/20

toxic masculine rape culture and BELIEVE VICTIMS when they come forward. Start w belief and be proven wrong, NOT the other way around!! Our culture of supporting the abusers needs to stop NOW. This is why priests, coaches, leaders, etc are able to cont their abuse 14/20

We are done protecting these ppl in power who think they are untouchable bc of the public army supporting them.
2) Take off your fan hat and be smarter. Just bc Chris' work inspired or educated you at one pt doesn't mean he's not a predator or abuser. There were A LOT 15/20

of stories abt how Weinstein helped so and so out in their career. Same w Cosby, Spacey, Sandusky, Nassar, etc. As the article writes, this is how predators groom their victims. This is how predators and abusers protect thmselves. If you haven't done the works to read up 16/20

on abusive socio- and psychopaths, then maybe start doing that instead of defending them because you were inspired at some pt in the past.
3) If you do believe, then share the fuck out of this. PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW. Chris can no longer have a platform to be elevated as a 17/20

wise #enneagram guru. No, #ChrisHeuertz is a predator who uses his fame, platform, and power to take advantage of women, esp women of color. It has to stop IMMEDIATELY. Spread the word. When you hear a coach sharing his books as a great resource, spk up #RaiseYourVoice 18/20

Abuse only stops when it's been exposed. The WORST thing to do is to stay silent. We have seen this in the last 2 wks w all the protests. #SilenceIsViolence
The only reason change is happening is bc videos are catching police in action. Chris is finally exposed. Let the 19/20

truth be known by everyone everywhere. This is hw we do our part as the brave women, their supporters directly involved are doing theirs by cont to collect truth-telling stories and taking action. FIN
Here's the article one more time
#MeToo #ChurchToo
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