As a father who stayed in the labour room for 7.5hrs before our son decided to come. It's not a joke, it's not easy and to be very honest. Men should not chook mouth in this matter.
We have no right to say a word.
A thread...
We have no right to say a word.
A thread...
Three things happened to me after that experience.
1. The respect I had for my wife grew by eons and then I feared her.
2. I respected my mum. (Like how can you do this 5 times without access to today's medical tech like epidural &co
3. My started respecting women more.
1. The respect I had for my wife grew by eons and then I feared her.
2. I respected my mum. (Like how can you do this 5 times without access to today's medical tech like epidural &co
3. My started respecting women more.
No woman goes into labour and comes back the the same. Forget epidural and all those things. The 9 months of that pregnancy alone changes a woman's body completely. (Let's not mention psychological changes).
I've seen women lose their sight after childbirth, or stiffness in certain parts of the body because childbirth. Guys, this things are real. When women share their experiences, we have no right to gag them. If you can't empathize, shooooosh.
If you feel woman should not talk. I think it's either because you don't know how deep this things is, you've not had a child, or you were not actually involved in the process.
Few tips to help you.
1. Google is a great friend.
2. From the day your wife tells you are going to be a father. Get these apps: Baby Centre and WhatToExpect. Client a husband account, add conception date and read the daily updates. You'd see what your wife's body suffers.
1. Google is a great friend.
2. From the day your wife tells you are going to be a father. Get these apps: Baby Centre and WhatToExpect. Client a husband account, add conception date and read the daily updates. You'd see what your wife's body suffers.
This in many ways will also help you empathize with your pregnant employees and colleagues. Or any pregnant woman you run into. Carrying a baby and delivering one is not beans. If you are man, you are either on the women's side or you should just close your mouth.
And remember... Childbirth in Nigeria is a lot more dangerous than anywhere else in the world that I know. Na by chance. Getting oxygen/blood na story. Women are being asked to push with low contractions hospitals don't to measure. It's not right for a women to push for hours.
When women talk about childbirth and the issues it brings. Dear men, if we don't have anything good to say to support and encourage them or at let them know we feel their pains (which we can't actually feel because we are not in their bodies). Let's just Waka pass.
