Thread by @SirFais

Jadi, anda manage untuk secure first date dengan si dia tapi takut anda tak perform?

Atau you've been in multiple dates, tapi selalu tak menjadi? Kenapa selalu tak menjadi? Kat mana silap attitude anda?

Check out these #Dating101 tips dalam #TopicWithSirFais

If you ask me, going out for a first date is like going for a job interview. First impression matters. And of course, kena la perform.

Tapi kena ingat, kalau put too much effort untuk perform, nampak macam try hard la pulak kan. Kalau cool-cool, chill-chill, nampak macam tak interested and jual mahal pulak.

Ada seni first date yang perlu anda tahu dan practise. Check out tips-tips on #Dating101 kat bawah ni..!

1. Set awal-awal. Either it's a date or a hook up.

Once dapat secure date, inform dia, sama ada you guys are going for a date atau nak sex date. Yes, ada beza kat situ.

This is to ensure you both are on the same page.

Bayangkan, you think yang dia nak seks dengan you. Tapi bila you make your move (because you misread the signals), dia reject. Worse, dia kata "I thought you just wanna date me.)

Tak ke awkward jadinya

Jangan assume yang orang tu nak apa yang anda nak. Untuk elakkan assumption, notify him or ask him.

"Mates and dates" ada banyak makna k. Sama jugak kalau orang yang tulis "Looking for gym buddy" 🙄

Yang dok tulis "open to anything" or "wait and see what happen", nampak sangat anda tak certain dengan apa yang anda nak.

Frasa sebegitu kelihatan seperti sekadar untuk meningkatkan probability untuk orang nak minat dengan anda. Which can counter react.

Tapi ada jugak kes yang suddenly things get intense and suddenly, he might end up on your bed.

In this case, before keluar date tu, make sure your place kemas and presentable ye. ☝🏻

2. Jangan follow/add friend/like tak tentu pasal pada account dia on social media before first date.

Agak-agak la kan. Chill dulu. You bukan dah dapat dia pun. First date pun belum dah add friend kat Facebookville (?)

Adding friend kat Facebookville nampak macam perkara biasa la kan. Tapi actually, it's like you're asking access from him to see all those posts and photos.

Don't be that creepy guy k

And please, dating is like trying your luck at the slot machine.

Ada kalanya, you'll hit the jackpot. Tapi most of the time, tak dapat apa-apa kan.

Takpe. Chill je. Move on.

Lagi korang follow dia, lagi banyak la korang akan meroyan.

Lagi-lagi bila nampak tweet dia shade kau for being a creepy guy. Much worse, dia post gambar crush/date dia kat Instagram.

Kau rasa?

3. Turn off notification. Kalau nak extreme lagi, put on flight mode or turn off phone time first date.

There's nothing that turn me off ultimately except my date keep on looking at the phone, checking his notification.

Layan phone can be a major turn off k.. Walaupun kau tengah reply/angkat call daripada boss. Remember, this is your first date.

And imagine, kau tengah tunjukkan dia gambar kau pergi travel sana sini kat phone kau, tetiba keluar notification whatsapp message drpd sister korang "Nok. Lube mak habis la. Nnti nak kirim ye"

Tak ke awkward.

Much worse, your Grindr notification pop up. Kau rasa?

4. Tanyalah dia

It's interesting to be interested. Tanya lah dia soalan, untuk kenal diri dia lebih mendalam.

Jangan pulak kau tanya dia "Into?"

Dah kenapa la kan.

Tanya boleh. Tapi avoid la tanya soalan pasal harta dia (unless you're applying for sugar baby position), ex dia or isu-isu yang boleh buat korang trigger (perihal politik atau ideologi misalnya)

5. Relax dan jujur

Dia pun rasa awkward dengan kau. Kau pun sama. What you can do, relaks kan diri anda. Maintain kan eye contact.

Kalau end up ada "coffee session" kat rumah dia, berlaku jujur lah tentang status anda, juga last #STI test anda.

Taking care of your sexual health is a matured thing to do k, and such a turn on. Well, for me personally la.

6. Breath mints and perfume

Buy them. Use them. Simple

7. Be clear with what happens next

Kalau tak minat dia on first date, bagitau dia terus.

Hilang macam tu je after first date is not a behaviour for grown up men k.

Dan kalau rasa boleh go to the next level of dating, boleh la tanya dia.

Ntah ntah, dia tunggu kau tanya, kau pun tunggu dia tanya, last-last tak jadi apa-apa.

Someone has to make a move k.

At least pun, cakap la skrip ni "It's really great to see you in person and I'd love to catch up again" (yang second part tu penting k)

Pastu exchange la number. Next day, you text him. And good luck from there...!