Thread by @guessimafab

i can’t stress this enough: young, stressed, impressionable females, in the current political climate, want more than anything to be told that they’re doing something good. that they’re helping someone. that they’re on the right side of history.

the amount of circles they(/we) will run in to convince themselves that the males who are telling them they’re doing something right have their/our best intentions at heart too. because we do for them. so we make an unreasonable amount of excuses. we find ideological loopholes.

and they groom us. they praise us when we do or say things that please them, and then they find ideology to back themselves up. they tell us we make a difference, we’re helping fight for trans justice in this shitty, bigoted world. as long as we just listen to them.

they get us to open up to them & express how we feel about our bodies and our gender roles. they get us to discuss what it means/feels to be a woman/lesbian/female, etc, because we trust them. and then they take the parts that interest them the most and claim them as their own.

i’ve seen trans identified males purchasing binders for themselves. insisting it helps their “lesbian dysphoria”. i’ve seen a TIM claim he wanted to start estrogen so he could grow breasts and then get top surgery to pass as ftm. it is twisted, delusional, fetish.

any any doubts you have about the legitimacy of this are squashed. it’s not the place of an afab to tell an amab person what is and isn’t a valid way to cope with their dysphoria.

no one wants to mention it to anyone in their life who already has suggested that they’re not totally on board with trans ideology, because we’ve been made to fear that they will use anything they can as bait to be transphobic, to further oppress trans people.

so we turn, in our doubts, to each other (sometimes) or to guidance (usually). and who is there, with an open ear, guiding hand, and trusting heart? who just wants to hear about how we feel? another trans identified male.

but THIS trans identified male is different. he isn’t like the one you might have concerns over. he understands you. and that trans identified male that you have concerns over? the concerns that you have don’t have anything to do with the fact that he’s a TIM.

in fact, to cover our bases, let’s go ahead and say “pattern recognition is a TERF dogwhitle”. (yes, seriously.)

the constant looking over your shoulder for approval is huge. but females never feel confident enough to take a stance, or we’re told we aren’t allowed to, so it’s always the males who step in to tell us how it’s supposed to be

before i made this account, before i began to share my story, i took precautions. i made sure my story was not on the internet word for word in another place attached to my real name. and i still feel wrong. i still feel like someone is about to catch me and put me in line.

I PROMISE YOU THIS: EVERY FEMALE IN THIS COMMUNITY IS IN IT BECAUSE SHE BELIEVES SHE IS MAKING THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE. SHE IS BEING TOLD THAT HER CONTRIBUTION TO THE COMMUNITY IS VALUABLE. SHE IS VALUABLE. ALL SHE NEEDS TO DO IS SUBMIT.

the more you push, the more the cracks form, until one of them snaps. you dumb bitch, just shut up. do what i say. oh. i mean, uh. don’t you understand that as a cis femme you have privilege over me, a trans butch? if you don’t listen to me you’re literally hate criming me.

they’re CONSTANTLY being forced to cover their tracks. to find a new reason why to not listen to a specific female or kind of female. they don’t even know what the point is, at this point, i think. just get the dumb bitches to shut up and let us have sex with them.

we don’t want to believe it!!!! we want it to be true that trans identified males wouldn’t hurt us!! they really are just misunderstood, and lost in this world of gender, like we are. and if WE don’t support them, who will? certainly not conservatives!

i believe that the trans community comes from females needing a mission, a purpose. we can see and feel what is wrong in the world. we want to change it. many of us are affected by it (especially SSA, GNC females).

and when the whole WORLD is chaos, these females feel that they’re doing the world a service by protecting transwomen. the question we never get around to asking is: from whom are we supposed to be protecting them from?

because when you ask the question, really ask it, the answer is clear. and it breaks apart the whole lie. it’s males. it’s been males all along. all we needed to do was see it. they are just so, so, goddamn good at manipulating us.

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