Thread by @idede_oses

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I have been ruminating about the issue of counsels and counsellors for some time now and the need to understand the different types of counsels and counsellors out there.
Of Counsels And Counsellors: Sifting the Chaff from the Wheat. 1

One of the unpardonable offences you must never be guilty of in our home while growing up was to ignore counsels. My parents had little or no tolerance for anyone who fails to take advice. It was a taboo..😊😆😉

I recall correctly when I visited my brother years ago in the university, a friend of his described him in this manner: "this your brother, once you refer him to one place, that's where he will be going, he won't try somewhere else".

When he said that, I smiled because I shared the same trait. I am loyal to recommendations.
By default, we were prone to listen to counsels from others. To some it is a good thing, right?

But from observation and life experiences, I have grown to start to question recommendations and also prove counsels whether they are right or wrong before deciding whether to take or discard it. Not all 'gifts' are profitable.

The next questions are:
Can counsels be wrong?
Did the Bible not say in the multitude of counsels there is safety? 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

In this series, I will try to explain with practical stories and illustrations the various kinds of counsels and counsellors.

In brief, we have ignorant counsellors. They are the ones who do not know that they are ignorant. These are common in our African settings, & they are mainly elders. They are the kind of counsellors that believe they know more than you by virtue of their age

We also have the copy and paste counsellors. These ones just want to talk, to show that they are informed. They are the proponents of status quo, "na so dem dey do am" set of counsellors. They are very opinionated and difficulty to please.

It is either their way or no other way, they are usually one-way traffic! 🤣

We have 'frenemies' (enemies in a friendly toga) posing as friends giving you counsels. These ones are your subtle enemies but they pose as friends. They will subtly give you counsels that will derail you from the path if you make the mistake of going with it

They are more deadly because they will follow you through the path, making you think they are in solidarity with your course, meanwhile, they are leading you to the guillotine.

Is this a coded justification for outright disregard for advice and counsels?
Don't be in a hurry to judge, follow the series.
Wisdom is known of her children.

I remain yours sincerely, Idede Oseyande, the Thought Tutor.✌🏾✌🏾
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