They had a house help once
The lady was very good with their children and acted more like a younger sister to his wife
One day he returned from work unexpectedly and found the house help in his sitting room sleeping with the boy repairing phones on the street
He just smiled and
picked what he came home to pick
He rushed straight to the airport & traveled to Abuja
He didn't say a word about what he saw o his wife on the phone
He knows his wife
His wife will sack the lady without batting an eye
His wife wouldn't consider the fact that he was out of Lagos
and she wouldn't be able to cope alone with the children and her work without any help
He felt they could address it when he returned home from Abuja
He had contacted the agent that brought the house help and was told a replacement would be available within two weeks
He felt it
was wise to keep things as they were until they can get a replacement
His business in Abuja was concluded in four days
He got home on Friday morning
He met the house help at home
Immediately he saw the house help, he realized he had underestimated her
Her body language said "I am
ready for you"
When his wife got home that night, his wife didn't waste any time accusing him of trying to sleep with the house girl
The house help told his wife exactly what happened but she switched the roles played by the two men in the story
according to the house help, he
came back home and grabbed her
She struggled with him but he overpowered her
He tore her clothes and had penetrated her when the guy repairing phones down the street came to the house to drop off her phone which was undergoing repairs and caught them in the act
The house girl
told his wife she will produce the guy repairing phones as her witness if need be
His wife believed the house girl
The timing of his return home, the timeline between that time and his flight synchronized
His wife cried and screamed and called him all sorts of names
He didn't say
anything!
His wife called his younger brother to report the issue
His wife called his mother too
He didn't say a word to either of them
He just told them to trust him because the truth will eventually surface
He didn't say a word
Not to his wife or the house girl
He just kept mum
After two weeks his wife became uncomfortable with his silence
She called his mother again claiming he was turning the table by waging psychological warfare on her
He packed his bags and left home
He went to lodge in a hotel and told his wife he wouldn't mind a divorce at that
point
It was not what his wife had in mind
His wife started sending WhatsApp messages
"Other people have issues in their marriages and manage it"
"Why can't you just admit what you did and give us a room to heal as a family"
He called his lawyer to arrange for the divorce papers
his wife took the letter to her family members with tears
Their marriage was 8 years old
Things had been tough for the first five years but they had started doing better until he did what he did
She felt he deliberately wanted to take advantage of the issue with the house help to
dump her and walk away
The two families called a meeting
He was invited and so was his wife
Their church pastor was invited too
His wife told the gathering everything she knew
The house help was also given the room to speak
The house did not think twice about her story, she lied
repeated the same lie right to his face
When it was his turn to speak
He said he had only one question, why did his wife keep the house help around if she didn't want a divorce?
His wife said the house help was good with the children and faithful to her, she didn't want to reward
the girl with a sack because that would be unfair. It is what men with male privilege like to do
Take advantage of girl knowing she will have no room for maneuver
If she agrees to sleep with the man, she will keep her job and the man will continue to take advantage of her but if
she says no, the man will make the house uncomfortable for her and she will lose her job
She said she was determined not to reward the house help with a sack
Faithfulness and truth must be encouraged, not punished
Her husband said "You kept a lady who your husband find sexually
attractive under the same roof with him because you are sure your husband wouldn't try to sleep with her again or because you are sure she will never allow your husband to sleep with her?
She said she didn't think of the event repeating itself, she just wanted to be fair to the
girl
Then her husband said "You also kept her around for a day like this, when you can make her witness against me and drag me through the mud of shame before my family and your family"
She was your witness
Your evidence that i am an unfaithful man who needed to be shamed. Isn't
that right?
To this his wife said "If you had admitted what you did and asked for forgiveness, all this wouldn't happen. But you kept quiet and started acting like a victim
You were using "Ogboju" boldface and pretending all my words were weightless and fabricated
I am not a fool
Stop acting as if I am foolish
I know what I am doing
You brought this on yourself
You hurt me and now you're trying to act coy
Her husband did not respond
He walked over to the television and switched it on, he told everybody to watch
He inserted the flash drive which had been
with him since the day his wife accused him of infidelity
The camera was placed in the house to monitor how the house help treats the children when they were not at home
It never occurred to her to check the incident especially because the house help claimed what happened between
them happened in the room
The camera only covered the sitting room
The video was there for all to see
His wife saw everything that happened with her two eyes
The family members saw, the church leaders also saw it
The husband said he still wanted a divorce because his wife started
building a case against him immediately the house help told her the lie
His wife didn't even give him the benefit of the doubt despite the fact that he had never ever given her a reason to doubt his faithfulness in the marriage
At that point, everybody begged him
His wife fell on
her knees and cried
She admitted that she had overreacted and messed up big time
He did shakara (played hard to get) for about an hour
Eventually, he hugged his wife
Family members and church leaders left
His wife sent the house girl packing that same evening with curses and
insults
The agent brought another house help for them that same day
His wife had one misgiving though, it was the fact that he held on to the video until she had made a fool of herself
She felt he deliberately wanted her to fall flat on her face
Why wait when you have such a
compelling evidence?
Six months later, his wife told him she wanted to take the former house help back
She said the new one was poor with the children and the former one had begged for her forgiveness
He argued against it
She brought her back
A month later, he divorced her
PS: I asked her why he did that
He said he felt his wife brought the girl back to prove a point and he didn't feel comfortable in the house anymore
Family members tried in vain to intervene
He said the fact that his wife was willing to make him live in the same house with a girl
that accused him of rape was a No!
The insensitivity of his wife was a No
and the fact that his wife made him feel unsafe and probably was trying to entrap him with the house help to prove a point was a No
They called it irreconcilable difference
#SARS cannot be #SWAT right now!
Zany gbengawemimo.com/post/zany
Family members tried in vain to
intervene
He said the fact that his wife was
willing to make him live in the same
house with a girl that accused him
of rape was a No!

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