My day is split into 4 distinct sections 1. Morning (until 930am) - dedicated to me 2. First half (until 1230pm) - dedicated to my work 3. Second half (until 530pm) - dedicated to external engagements 4. Evening (until 930pm) - dedicated to family
This has been so for 4+ yrs
Morning
4.30-4.50am
I wake up at 430am
The first thing I do is to get a glass of water, sit on the floor cross legged and sip it like wine.
No phone.
No person.
Just me and and my water.
This is when I mostly think about the day to come, maybe remember a dream. No agenda!
4.50-5.00am
I check my whatsapp and emails
Whatsapp - I reply quickly if I have to
Emails - I either archive, delete or snooze for later (930am)
I do not reply to any email.
I do not want to take any decisions or think about my actions this early in the day
5.00-5.30am
I meditate
I started 4 years back with @Headspace's guided meditation. @andypuddicombe was my virtual guru for 2 years
I LOVE reading the newspaper. It is my way of getting a delayed feed on the shit happening in the world.
For 15+ years it has been Hindustan Time and Economic Times.
And no, I do not read HT City :)
8.15-8.45am
Shower and get ready
I get our daughter ready as well. The highlight of her day is "kapde choose"
My favorite meal of the day. I break my fast after ~15 hours
Usual breakfast will be either of
-- All raw (fruits)
-- Plan parantha
-- Poha/Dosa/Idli
Every 2 weeks, we treat ourselves to Chole Bhature (slurp!)
And Meethi lassi (slurp slurp!)
9.30-1230pm
My work slot
Starts with checking emails.
And comprises
-- Commenting on social media
-- Reading
-- Making notes
-- Thinking
I follow the Pomodoro principle (25mins work; 5 mins break). During the break, I drink water, kiss my wife and kids, eat dry fruits. Wander
12.30-1.00pm
Chill time
Use it to check social media for my own self (as against a content creator)
1.00-2.00pm
Lunch
The family comes together. We are vegetarians so lunch is simple and basic.
Usually ends in 30-40mins, so the rest of the time I check my phone, or lie down or play a quick game of Uno with our son.
2.00-5.00pm
My external work slot
This is reserved for all external engagements
-- Phone calls
-- Zoom calls
-- Video recordings
-- 1:1 team calls
-- Corporate talks (if I get to chose the time)
I try and restrict this slot to no more than 3 meetings. Most meetings are 30-45m
5.00-5.30pm
Chill time
Checking phone
Random chit chat
Checking the fridge!
5.30pm-6.30pm
Dinner
We are all early eaters. And we like it this way.
Dinner is usually Dal/roti/rice
Every 2 weeks we treat ourselves to Domino's Pizza (slurp!)
630-8.00pm
Park time
We all go down to the colony park
Son plays with his friends.
We take our daughter to the swings and then walk around the park. Catching up on the day.
8.00-8.30pm
Family call
We catch up with parents on a Zoom/Whatsapp call
8.30-9.15pm
Wind up
Wind up the house
Brush
Get into "raat ke kapde" which FYI is different from night suits
Lights fade out and Alexa Lullabies take over
9.30pm
Sleep!
By this time, I am so ready to sleep :)
Pro-tip:
The trick to getting up early is not getting up early.
It is to sleep on time.
It is the morning routine that sets me up for the day.
I use that time to feed myself, hear myself, spend time with myself.
Once done, very little can perturb my day.
I denied myself this privilege for most of my life.
I allowed the world to take over, the min I got up!
What I love about this schedule is the split of it.
- 52% of my time is spent on things that are important but NOT urgent (reading, meditating, working out, thinking etc)
- 75% of my time is spent on important things (urgent or not)
It was the exact opposite for me for so long
What all have I learnt from following this schedule
1. If we allow the phone to start our day, we have given the world permission to manipulate us
2. Managing energy = managing times. Spend time on things that give you energy. Weed out things that drain you out of it.
3. Urgent things call for our attention. Attend to them, but do not become slaves to them.
4. Boredom can be a goal. If you genuinely do not know what to do with your time, consider that a privilege. Don't be ashamed of it.
5. Figuring how to spend your day is a journey, not a destination.
It changes, it goes up and down, it works and at times it doesn't.
Enjoy the journey.
Life isn't about being busy.
It is about living it!
Fin.
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For the past 4 years, I have managed to read 40-45 books in a year.
After a lot of trial and error, I think I have arrived at a way of reading books that works for me.
It all starts with a routine.
1.
I read every morning, for 30-45 mins.
This is after 90 mins of waking up, once I am done with my meditation, my singing and my "sipping water like wine" routine (a story for another day)
I have read everyday for the longest time I know.
Almost at the same time everyday.
I always sugar coated my feedback, even when I felt strongly that they had done something wrong.
I felt I would come across as rude.
I felt they will feel bad about themselves.
People who wish to grow always seek feedback.
Diluting the feedback is disrespectful to them.
I always wanted to know how I could help them.
I always wanted to know what was wrong.
But I never shared how they could help me.
Even when asked, I never shared what was wrong at my end.
People want the joy of being able to help you, just as much as you seek that joy from them.
This right here, is almost all of consumer psychology summarized.
This picture is a real-life proof (take it for what it's worth) of the Prospect Theory - which was presented by Dan Kahneman and Amos Traversky in a seminal paper in 1979 bit.ly/2Gsq7i2
They (actually only Kahneman) went on win the Nobel prize in 2002.
A layman summary of the theory is
Pain from loss >> Pleasure from gain
It said
People are willing to take a sure shot than gamble on getting higher gains (another form of loss aversion) - which is shown in Poll 1
(60% took the sure shot Rs. 500)