Psychology, neurology and philosophy have been integral parts of my study since I was a teenager. Ever since I embraced my uncanny ability to feel the pains of others & cultured the habit of taking responsibility. Having familiarized myself with psychoanalysts’ saying...
...”The Good Mother necessarily fails” I’ve had to re-tweak my processes every now and then. The maxim suggests that as your ‘child’ matures, you have to fail more and more as a ‘mother.’ If you are guardian to a 20-35years old, you are not their mother anymore.
Biologically you still are but that relationship soon becomes a quasi-peer status. I have seen this happen in most families where children feels they are matured enough to talk back and take risks even while enjoying parental care when they fail.
Even though they may not entirely be independent but they exhibit a degree of freedom that makes them want to stand on their own enough to take on the world. My nephews and nieces in that age bracket have shocked me severally. To us parents they’ll always be our children.
I recall the attitude displayed once on twitter when the expression “they remain our kids” was used to de-escalate an impending danger when young adults were testing the temperament of the system. But I realize that the worst thing you can do for someone who’s anxious...
...is overprotect them. It clearly makes them worse. What you do for people who are hyper anxious is, gradually expose them with their voluntary consent to increasingly threatening situations. Let them fail, face the consequences & take responsibility. This is a potent cure.
...End of Celestial Observation... 
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