I hate what's become of the counseling profession.
We went from powerhouses like Ellis and Perls to woke SJW affirmation only nonsense and wonder why our collective mental health continues to deteriorate
Counseling was designed with SOLUTIONS in mind. The modern theoretical fathers were in competition as to who's approach was superior at getting you patched up and back on the road as quickly as possible....
Now we have therapists happy to engage you indefinately and act like that isnt a total self-own and a display of your own incompetence
"Everyone else should be nice to you" is therapeutic malpractice. It's a copout, its lazy and its fatalistic.
You're basically telling a client that their only hope is to find people who unconditionally tolerate your brand of misery or be alone forever.
Therapists spend more time diagnosing your family members based on your rants about them in session, then helping you to own what you can and let go of what you cant.
If a therapist has offered a diagnosis of someone theyve never met, they're a clown.
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These apples look great. This is part of why we do GMO's in the first place. We can engineer the "perfect" apple, controlling for things like weight, shape, color and shelf life. They then get a beauty treatment of wax and polish to finish the look...
and after 2 months, they look just as good as when I bought them. But how will they taste? I'm not really willing to find out by biting into one after being in my fridge for so long
I understand support for law enforcement, but when push comes to shove, they will do as they're told by whomever they believe is in charge.
Law enforcement attracts a specific temperament, and it's one that defers to authority for its decisions.
You will not see officers bucking the pecking order in any significant numbers. They will not defy their departments, and departments will not defy their cities, DAs and judges on the whole.
Rationalizing what are obviously emotional reactions.
I call that "kicking it upstairs"
It's a refusal to acknowledge that sometimes the emotional brain is in the drivers seat and you cant bear the thought of that kind of loss of control
It represents a failure of will, and for some people, that's a soul crushing kind of blow to the self-confidence.
"There is a perfectly logical explanation for why I feel the way I do, it is in no way related to my own emotional baggage but a reasonable and thought out position"
Nonsense.
You're having a melt down like the rest of us and are clamoring for ANY sort of post rationalization so that the story can be anything OTHER than "I'm not as in control of my feelings as I thought I was"
Theres a joke that it's the bassist in the band that no one knows or talks about who disappears behind the singer and guitarists, but have you ever been the keyboardist?
In college I was responsible for the keyboards AND the electronic drums in my band. Everything that wasnt guitar, was me.
One evening out with friends someone suggested "we go to some guys apartment and listen to Tim's band practice tonight"...
That was MY apartment, and Tim was my bass player. They suggested we go listen to my band practice 🙁
The wife and I have been talking this evening about the good people we have had the pleasure to live around in our years out here
I have learned more about what it means to be a good Christian friend & neighbor from @Bonkuba than anyone else.
There are good people out there
Had a strong rainstorm one day and my garage began to flood. I was frantically trying to pump out what I could.
@Bonkuba came out of his house and started shoveling like it was his own house. He broke free some debris that was blocking a drainage path for me, saving my garage..
I had a really dopey dumb dog who was quite the escape artist. He would always help wrangle her and lure her back to the yard, and then do his best to fix the hole she had dug. Often we wouldn't even be home, and he would still chase down this mutt and return her home...
We recreate the relationships we are used to. Some people are emotionally incapable of anything different.
High conflict people, for example, have no frame of reference for a life outside of an "us vs the world" mindset. Its deep.
So you burn bridges and create the drama, because then you know how to act. That kind of relationship makes sense and you have power
A life relatively free of conflict, be it interpersonal, professional, whatever, is a place of anxiety. You're left wondering when the rig gets pulled out and to not be caught off guard, you just "get on with it" and sabotage what could have been for what has been