It doesn't mean they can't have bad things happening in their lives that YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT BECAUSE EVERY TIME, ALWAYS, SOMEONE SHOWS UP WITH "oh, yeah, I'd LOVE to have YOUR problems, you should try having REAL people problems."
Just freaking don't.
You have no idea how hard it is to be open about their mental health, problems, etc, esp if they've garnered a larger socials following.
Because always, ALWAYS there is someone judging you, who feels the need to tell you you don't have the right or any reason to have said issues
No.
The person who doesn't have the right in this conversation is the one telling another human being that they are there to perform on command, and then be put back on the shelf until the next time. Not to be thought of as a person. Just a thing.
So anyway, don't do that, and if you do, don't give me or anyone the surprised pikachu face when you get blasted for it.
End of story.
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Being a woman isn't some limited edition, scant supply, hoard it like hand sanitizer thing.
Understanding that trans women *ARE WOMEN* does not somehow invalidate me as a woman. It just means there are more amazing women.
End.
Of.
Story.
No one is saying you matter less or your womanhood is worth less than anyone else's.
It means that you have the opportunity to hold out a hand & welcome those who haven't yet had the experiences you've had.
How great is it that you can be there with them for it?! H*ckin awesome
It isn't cake.
You won't run out of womanhood by sharing it with others.
Who knows, maybe one of them brought ice cream or wine. WHY WOULD YOU MISS OUT ON THAT SIMPLY TO BE IGNORANT AND SELFISH
At,some point, I suppose you have to put enough faith in people that they will judge you by the content of your character, past actions, and words; and not by what someone says about you in attempts to hurt you or stir drama.
Just noticed the extra comma.
I blame the shark in raft.
bruce was trying to eat me for dinner.
2:30AM ADHD-depression-anxiety-fuelled addendum:
I try my best. I try to stand up for others, & for what I believe is right.
I don't expect everyone to agree with me, or even like me.
I know I stumble & fail sometimes, because I relive every time I have done, going back YEARS.
"No civil police force could hold out against an irate and resolute population. The trick is not to let them realize that. Yes?”
― Terry Pratchett, Unseen Academicals
(Lord Vetenari, ruminating on policing a la Vimes)
“When people who can write and read fight for other people who lack that knowledge, the result is just a new kind of stupidity. If you want to do something for them, build a library somewhere and leave the door open.”
- Terry Pratchett, Interesting Times
I was reminded today by a conversation of one of the most (at the time) condescending things I'd had said to me (at that point).
When PJ & I were newly engaged (and yes, young), we attended a party with a lot of people of...shall we say....a higher social status?
(LOL, right)
While I was hiding in a corner (I had no one to talk to about serial killers. PJ is much better at small talk than I_), one of the women came up to me & asked if he was my boyfriend. I smiled & VERY proudly said, "No, he is my fiance!"
She made a show of looking at my left hand.
My ring, of course, was small in comparison to hers. But I treasure that ring. He had to choose between a PS2 or that ring. Come on.
With a condescending smile, she said, "Oh, how nice. I'm sure it will be a sweet starter marriage for you."
Today's #OperaGeek "Serious Talk Times™" is about something difficult: rejection.
Many people think of rejection in the sense of romantic attachments; that isn't what this is about.
This is about other kinds, & perceptions of 'following your dream' as a performer.
Buckle up.
This is about everyday rejections. The rejections that come when you try to do what you love. The rejections that are never voiced, but made known through silence.
The rejections that chip away at you, little by little, until your confidence is blown.
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I told @TheeDoctorB last week about my wall of rejections I'd kept for a while, at the end of/just after college.
It was literally a wall of the letters, printed emails, etc of the auditions, competitions, & programs that sent me a 'no thanks' - often without hearing me.
“They say that the eyes of some paintings can follow you around the room, a fact that I doubt, but I am wondering whether some music can follow you for ever.”
― Terry Pratchett, Snuff