1) Be part of a like-minded group. Applaud different views. Welcome different skills. Build a team mission.
2) Debate. Don’t argue. Share views, opinions. Eliminate heated environments. Agree to disagree, move on.
3) Numbers can’t change you. Cash. Follower count. Assets. Keep your feet on the ground. It can all disappear quickly.
4) If you can’t help for free, you don’t deserve paid work. Help, without expectations. Every action is experience. It somehow pays off.
5) Comparing is nature. Don’t overdo it. Focus on self-motivation, not envy. They aren’t better than you. Never lose confidence. You have the ability.
6) Look backwards to learn. Not regret. Look forward to visualize. Build your game plan. There will be bumps. Find the way.
7) Improving is success. As Henry Ford put it, “No one ever considers themselves an expert if they really know the job”. You aren’t an expert. No stopping. Learn daily.
8) Life is about communities. Search one. Join one. Analyze. Provide value. Climbing the 9-5 is no different to climbing online.
9) Study people. Read through their intentions. Good relationships will skyrocket you. Bad ones will dig you a hole. Decide who needs to go, who needs to stay.
10) Learn from those ahead of you. Let them inspire you. They only started before you.
11) If the spotlight is on you, stay cautious. They will come after you. Give credit to others. Spotlight on them. Victory is not a “one man” game.
12) Set new objectives before achieving your goals. Success can feel empty. Build a never-ending purpose. Avoid “now what?”. Stay alive.
13) Instant gratification does not outweigh emotional pain. Junk food. Alcohol. Material luxuries. Even money in the bank. Search for inner happiness. A meaning to life.
14) You need to work hard. Without forgetting what matters. Your family. Your friends. Your physique. Your mental health. Value all before you lose it all.
15) Read books, while taking action. Street smart vs. book smart. Real life experience beats all. You will figure it out. It’s all timing.
16) Study yourself. Every day. Your emotions. Be in control, as others will see weakness. Note what triggers. Emotional contagion is the new virus.
17) Technology is your best friend. Test. Learn. Make social media your asset. Network. Create more. Consume less. It’s free education.
18) No one has a clue. Everyone learns the go. Including those that have made it. React as you progress. Start. Then look back to say, “I have made it”. You still won’t know how.
19) Less daily decisions works best. Look to automate. Fix processes. Daily habits. Overthinking is synonym of stress. Think less. Focus on importance.
20) Learn to sell. Sell products. Sell your skills. Life is relationships. Master sales. You will never be out of a job.
Lesson 21 for 2021: Master your personal finances. Planning. Budgets. Forecasts. Increase your inflows. Understand your investments. Keep it simple. Make your life simple.
Thank you all for these 5 months.
Invaluable experience.
Invaluable relationships.
Thank you for being part of it.
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Winners say, “let’s see if we win, our competition is good”. Even when knowing that they will be the winners. Be the “underdog”. Catch everyone by surprise, knowing that you’re better. Less pressure & unnecessary stress too; you will feel good.
2. Become a leading “detective”
Recognise clues that guide you to new opportunities. Curiosity leads to growth. 1) Observe 2) listen 3) understand. Read between the lines and stay aware. This leads to “Ah Ha, I got this”. Moments of greatness that guide your future direction.
Are they really though? The bullies. It can be shouting, making fun of you or talking behind your back. Don't attack back. Disarm them by remaining calm and avoid sarcasm. “Are you done? Can we move on now?”.
2. The “Gaslighting” abuser
They enjoy making you think you’re crazy.
The problem is you, not them. They manipulate to question your beliefs/thoughts & everything around you. They are “in charge”. Disarm them by focusing on feelings; avoid right or wrong. Don’t doubt yourself.
You become a “Manager” or you gain “Followers” online. Both a sign of entitlement. Yet, most get so concerned on their status that they forget about the mission. “Leadership is a choice, not a rank” – Simon Sinek. Make others feel good, feel safe.
2. Nothing is “URGENT”
“This is urgent”. An overused statement that loses its credibility. There is a culture of unnecessary stress, burnout and low-quality work. Unless you work in healthcare, it’s not urgent. Get your priorities in order; differentiate urgent vs. important.
Avoid eye contact? They're shy, hiding something or feeling intimidated. Find out. Looking bottom right? Reflecting their feelings. Bottom left (disagreement), top right (lie/visualising), top left (remembering). Study eyes; know their thinking.
2. Body distance defines openness
They lean away? Negative response. Lean back too. Leaning in: You got their attention. Respect distance, or their first impression won’t be positive. “7% is what you say, 38% is how you say it and 55% is nonverbal communication”- Dan Lok.