Thread by @usnehal

Well that is lovely.
Welcome 2021.

I should just disable the news notifications. I have no need to know about homicides being up. And yes, I am, aware, domestic violence is a big killer. People home with their “loved ones” = danger, maybe death.

Again, I prefer pumas to humans many a day.

Conservatives try to fear monger & tell you it is some “other” (typically another race) who is the murderer & rapist.

Nope, danger is greatest from those you trust the most with access. Pediatricians know this. americanbar.org/groups/public_…

I have become extremely discerning regarding abuses of power particularly in faculty given this long history that is extensive across multiple elite boarding schools where reputation mattered more than protecting children including my own boarding school. I had no idea of it then

Whenever I see talk of:
“reputation”
“optics”
being “proper” or “appropriate”

With abusive or blaming or overly punitive approaches
to those lower in the power hierarchy, like students
or in medicine, trainees 👀

You betcha start looking for an abusive pattern

Protect people

Quarantine increases homicide? Totally fits what we already know.

While in domestic violence, often, men abusing women, in boarding schools, especially girls boarding schools the gender issue was not clear cut.

Female headmasters will protect abusive men for school “reputation”

https://twitter.com/usnehal/status/1344445457100111873

What it comes down to is power & money. Reputation is the basis by which you are an elite & selective school able to attract full tuition students. Elite families sending a 5th generation to a elite school want school reputations to be protected. These are the board members.

Overall in case you guys lost my thread/train of thought

my point:

it’s the people you trust
who are close to you
who have access,
who have some level of authority
like

a teacher/faculty
a coach
a parent
a parent’s SO
a babysitter
a priest/religious figure
spouse

= danger

It is absolutely shocking to me that I spent four years in a boarding school

(that my parents were able to afford as my dad took a job overseas working for an oil company)

And I was completely unaware of what was going on to girls
in my own class
living in the same dorms

Frankly

I feel so much safer in places like
the Bronx
Harlem
East Boston

than I do around people who will “strategically” exploit humans or protect abusers for (access to) power, prestige, reputations

or anyone interested in power/hierarchy

that often *becomes* abuse

Sorry folks

it’s not even 24 hours into 2021
and I can’t do
the happy happy joy joy

you can take the pediatrician out of the emergency room but....

... except it’s not even just my work in the emergency room
it is in SO many other spaces
these patterns
harm

oververbose as I am, don’t spill the beans on other people’s private stuff
+
people realize I am an empath
=
so I hear a LOT
too much

pandemic needs to be over .....so I can go climb mountains - I really need “away”
Chile?
Alaska?

maybe I need to get a car
Drive up to NH & ME

I think most people when they see a message like this

probably worry about their own safety

It doesn’t make me anxious

it just makes me frustrated at everything that is wrong in the world

can we please get above the problems and fix them at the source?

I need bubble tea

For whatever reason the place that I got really delicious lychee bubble tea via Uber eats, now lets me almost place an order, then says it is out of range - with the lychee bubble tea in the order

on door dash, I can order, but the lychee bubble tea option is not available

Mango lassi has been ordered instead.