Have you noticed when you meet a particular brother or sister for the first time, you get along with them instantly. You agree on most things, you feel comfortable in their presence and most importantly you talk to them as if you have known them for years.
You even express yourself in a way that would take you months or even years with other people. You don't hold back what you want to say and can express yourself freely in their presence.
After meeting them a few times you have a firm attachment to them and proudly proclaim them to be your brother or sister.
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) described why this happens.
1. It is sunnah to marry older women.
2. It is sunnah to marry a divorced person.
3. It is sunnah to marry a widow.
4. It is sunnah to help women with household chores, such as cooking, cleaning, washing, etc.
5. Put food in your wife's mouth as an expression of love. (classified as a form of charity)
6. It is sunnah to express your love, gratitude and respect to your wife.
7. It is sunnah to forgive her for her mistakes.
8. It is the sunnah to keep your wife looking good, to gift her, kiss her, foreplay with her, give her a seperate housing if you can afford it.
9. It is a sunnah to try to know your wife's feelings and to comfort her when she needs it.
Sisters if you don't want to work after marriage and support your spouse financially please explicitly state this to your future spouse and their family.
I have come to know that men and their families are seaching for working women so that they can come into their family and support the family at large especially with finances.
Islamically women have no such duty or responsibility. If a woman earns it's her own money.
If she decides to support her husband and his family that's a good deed but not an obligation and she cannot be forced or guilt tripped into doing this.
There are men and families who need women to work and support the household.
Once, when Umar bin al-Khattab (رضي الله عنه) was walking in the market, he passed by a man who was supplicating,
اللهم اجعلني من القليل اللهم اجعلني من القليل
“O Allah, make me from the few! O Allah make me from the few!”
So ‘Umar said to him, “Where did you get this Dua from?” And the man said, “Allah in His Book says:
و قليل من عبادي الشكور
‘And few of My servants are grateful.’ (Qur’an 34:13)”
So ‘Umar wept and admonished himself, “The people are more knowledgeable than you, O Umar! O Allah make us from Your ‘few’ servants.”
Sometimes when you advise someone to leave a sin, they respond with “But everybody does it, it’s not just me!”
There’s been somewhat of an uproar over Mohammad Salah (football player) celebrating Christmas, and many Muslims are upset.
I don’t wish to discuss what he did at this point as it’s obvious what he did was utterly wrong,
but what shocks me is why Muslims make worldly celebrities as their role model in dīn.
The best role model is our beloved Prophet ﷺ, and we don’t need anyone else.
Thus, it is vital for us Muslims to learn our creed & dīn in such a manner that if all the Muslims celebrities not only celebrated Christmas, but hypothetically left Islam - and Allāh’s refuge is sought -
Marriage is a Sunnah of the Prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam. A lot of the youngsters I meet complain of Fitnah and the fear of falling into Zina (fornication). A lot of them are university students and can’t afford getting married on their own.
The Prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam instructed the youth to fast if they are unable to afford marriage. However, it is the duty of the parents to help their son or daughter to get married if they are unable to do that on their own.
Scholars say that it is mandatory to get married for those who fear falling into forbidden relationships. I can’t understand why most parents risk their children falling in such forbidden relationships and insist that they marry only when they finish school or when employed.