She walked into my office on a Sunday Morning at about 11:15AM
She said she wanted me to pray for her two teenagers
She looked so young and modern with multiple earrings adorning her ears and a short crisp (tainted) haircut and a short (Not indecent) gown
She was ushered in right
after the service
She said a brother in church insisted she had to meet with me for prayers
She didn't look like someone who had ever seen a night all her life but appearances can indeed be deceptive
She told me she was facing a very strong challenge in her marriage
Her husband
of over 18 years suddenly packed his bag and left the house he built claiming she was trying to kill him
He walked out of his home
He went back to his Father's house and started staying with his mother
It was a puzzle
The wife claimed it was demonic manipulation
She said his
relatives were envious of his dedication to her wellbeing and that of her children
She said she was a full housewife
He was the banker and provider and he loved his family with all his heart
He made sure they travel for summer every year and he gave them the best of everything
She said she was with him one day when his mother called him and started screaming that the way he was handling his wife and children was the way men who had been charmed by their wives handle women
His mother didn't see any sense in her son doing all the work while a girl will
just sit down in the name of marriage and be enjoying all the benefits
Her husband's older sisters too didn't like the arrangement
She wondered why her ease was a problem for them
She was not a lazy woman by any standard
She wanted to work but her husband said No!
He was a very
jealous man by nature and felt she was too free as a person not to attract the attention of other men
He didn't tell his mother that
He didn't tell his sisters and other relatives that
But that was the reason he wanted to keep her at home
He was insecure and it was not because
she was a cheat or gave him any indication that she would cheat
The way she dressed and acted was what attracted him to her
It was also what made him so uneasy with her being around other men
He was an IT guru and got very well paid by his employers
He felt he could take care of
her and the children while sparing himself unnecessary drama and convinced her to stop working
She didn't know his family will turn the table on her
She didn't know the softness of her palms would be judged by his mother as a weakness rather than a strength
Her husband started
experiencing nightmares
They would come upon him suddenly in the middle of the night and leave him panting and sweating
They were both irreligious
His religion was his work and her religion was her family
She didn't know her foundation would be shaken in the days of adversity
After weeks of battling with the nightmares, her husband told her he would have to seek for a solution somewhere
She had no idea how to guide or support him
She was just hoping it would blow over
When she told him to take a week off work and relax because the nightmares might be
as a result of stress
The result was a disaster
The frequency of the nightmares increased throughout that week
The nightmares were unsettling
He was unduly frightened by shadows and coming apart at the seams
He really needed help
He went to Ibadan to see his mother for counsel
That was the end of their marriage
He returned home two days later and started accusing her of sleeping around and trying to kill him so as to get her hand on his money
It was very funny
They both operate a joint account and investment portfolio with an either to sign mandate
She
already had access to everything
It wouldn't make any sense to kill him for something she already had access to
She thought it was a joke
It was a tragedy
He left just like that...
She grew gaunt overnight
His departure hit her like thunder
She aged overnight and grew very frail
The mood around her grew darker and darker
She started contemplating suicide
The pain in her heart was an unending gnaw
She didn't know how she survived
He changed the mandate on his bank accounts and sold off their house
Within three months she was back in a rented apartment
He wanted to drag her to court and pursue divorce
She had no means of defending herself and he was determined to strip her of everything
She begged him not to put her through that ordeal
She would rather have hope than none at all
She told him to treat her like an ex but remain
the life of their children
He agreed
She was forty-two
An unemployed single mother of two
He was forty-five, living with his mother
She turned to God
prophecies came about charms used by his mother & other relatives to turn her husband against her
She had several dreams in which
she was strongly confronted by his relatives and challenged for trying to be with him or support him
She knew the battle is the Lord's
She had been too complacent
Envy had stirred the heart of the wicked against her joy
Wicked and desperate people had written petitions against
her and her children
She was caught holding the short end of the stick
She prayed and prayed
The church became her place of refuge
She joined the long queue of women who threw themselves at God's mercy as an act of desperation to save her home
Things started picking up slowly
Her children adjusted
She also came out of mourning and depression by the help of the Holy Spirit
Her relatives rallied round and opened a shop for her
She stopped processing her reality through the flesh
It was a spiritual issue and she came to know killing herself physically
won't settle it
She started praying for her husband
She knew he had been manipulated and fed lies about her and her children
His family had reprogrammed his heart to see her as a leech and an ingrate but she still loves him
She began to talk to herself to keep it together & hold
on to the truth of God's word
Days became weeks and weeks became months
They worked out an arrangement in which he comes to see his children every Sunday
He started sending her upkeep allowance again
The children started getting to know God and became prayerful too
The lines were
falling into pleasant places but she wanted more
She wanted her husband back
She wanted her husband to return home to her
He was not with another woman or with another family
He was at his parent's house due to demonic manipulation
She was no longer scared of whatever they wanted
to do to her but it felt so inhuman that a bunch of lies would prevent her children from enjoying direct access to their father and prevent her from enjoying the company and love of her husband
She started praying and making her declarations daily
Then she met a friend who told
her about the brother in Jeans and T-shirt
She was not looking for magic, charms, spells or whatever
She was looking for a divine intervention
Something only God can do to restore her home
The brother in Jeans and T-shirt met with her children
The children got filled with the
Holy Spirit
The brother in jeans and T-shirt hugged her son and told him to hug his father whenever they met for their weekly day out
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt told her there will be a speedy resolution and blessed her and her children as a family
The Pneuma got to work!
PS: Marriages and homes where demonic agents had sunk in their teeth are being visited this morning by the power of the Holy Spirit. Every home that has been brought into Christ for healing are experiencing that divine touch right now!
I command full restoration in Jesus name
Rather than cheat on your spouse, the honourable thing to do is quit the marriage
I know many people would rather want to eat their cake and have it, in principle, people who do that are scums and cheats
Either you are the husband or the wife, you have a duty to yourself to stay
faithful to your spouse regardless of the circumstances or the situation you find yourself in
If the situation is such that you cannot cope with the relationship, the best thing to do is walk out and stay out.
A lady came to my office claiming her husband was a two minute man and
the lack of sexual satisfaction had almost driven her into the street in search of a lover
She hadn't done anything yet...
She was just considering it because of the frustration the quick ejaculation issue the husband has was causing her
She made sure she dragged her husband to
He was a cheat
The first time she discovered he was cheating on her was two weeks to their wedding
She was four months pregnant and had woken up that morning with the intention of paying him a surprise visit at his crib in Magodo
He was still sharing a flat with three of his
friends at the time
She got to Magodo at about noon
The apartment was right behind the main house and the gate was almost always locked
Usually she would call call him once she got to the gate so that he would come and open the gate for her but on that fateful day, she met the
gate ajar
Someone was driving out of the compound and the big gate was wide open
She walked in, climbed the stairs to the boys quarters and met the door open
She walked in and found them (Her man and a lady) doing it
It was the last thing she expected to see, especially because
What she wanted to do was spice things up
Her marriage was too boring, too predictable
Sometimes it takes a lot of efforts for her husband to get it up and for him to last long enough for her to get there was also a herculean task
They used to be very sexually compatible but
after thirteen years in the love boat, the "see finish" syndrome crept in
She felt she was no longer exciting him
He had settled into life as a man and was no longer trying to do "playboy" with her
It was a terrible sinking feeling for her
A terrible omen about the close of a
season of excitement and joy
She started reading books about prolonging the fun
It didn't start with the book though
It started with an old secondary school friend
He chatted her up and somehow their conversation took an exciting turn
It was the last thing she expected after two
A case was brought to me. A woman working with a multinational whose husband’s business was not doing well. The man returned from the UK with money and bought four trucks to start logistics business but within two years a series of bad decisions killed his business. He refused to
get a job. The wife was working with A bank and later moved to the multinational. She was paying the rent and maintaining the cars. She had money and thought as long as she was footing the bills, they should be fine. The husband stopped sleeping with her somehow. She said she
couldn’t say how that happened.
He would consider the fact that she had been working all day and shouldn’t be warming his bed at night and therefore restrain himself from making sexual advances. She felt since she was putting al the money on the table she shouldn’t be begging
Christianity is the life of God in a human person by Jesus Christ.
Being a Christian doesn't mean I have decided to change my ways and live a good life...
If it is about you changing your ways by yourself, you can do that anytime and you don't need to become a Christian at all!
Christianity is accepting the gift of God (Jesus) as your Lord and saviour and receiving his Spirit (Holy Spirit) in your spirit willingly
You become one with His nature and He becomes the Lord of your life
I have met people who turned their lives around by their own effort, most
times, such people become self-righteous and insufferable.
I know a professor who stopped smoking by his own self-discipline, whenever he talked about other people suffering from addiction, he called them weak ninnies!
He was seen as lacking compassion and empathy and many people
It began as a harmless banter
He was married
She was single
He was the Acting Head of Public Relations in his company
He had assumed he was going to be given the role based on his performance
Suddenly he received a memo that the company had employed a Head of Public Relations and
He had to answer to her
He told himself the organization didn’t want to give the youth a chance
He assumed they recruited someone older and more he experienced
He was doing a fantastic job and he knew it
A few days later, his boss resumed and he was shocked
His boss was a lady
A lady who was five years younger than him
He didn’t know what to think
Was it a “We need more female in this organization” thing or a measure of how the management saw him?
He had no problem answering to the lady but he had a problem with nepotism
He was not sure she was brought