This is a reminder to all the women who told their families that they were raped or abused but they didn’t believe you:
Their disbelief is an issue which sits within them, not you. Their refusal to believe you isn’t about your own credibility or reality. It’s their denial.
Their disbelief is an issue which sits within them, not you. Their refusal to believe you isn’t about your own credibility or reality. It’s their denial.
You don’t have to carry their denial. You don’t have to prove to them that you’re telling the truth.
Their denial says more about them, than you.
They are protecting themselves instead of protecting you. They would rather frame you as lying than acknowledge your truth.
Their denial says more about them, than you.
They are protecting themselves instead of protecting you. They would rather frame you as lying than acknowledge your truth.
These are not your errors, faults or values.
It’s normal to feel completely betrayed by them. Often, we think our families and parents will be the ones to believe us and be there - and it hurts even more when they are the ones who blame or deny it ever happened.
It’s normal to feel completely betrayed by them. Often, we think our families and parents will be the ones to believe us and be there - and it hurts even more when they are the ones who blame or deny it ever happened.
They will either continue denying it forever - or they will have to reflect on what they’ve done so they didn’t have to face the truth, not only of the abuse, but of the hurt they’ve caused you by denying you support and belief.
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