The murder of Sarah Everard has renewed conversation about women's safety & in particular, ideas of 'self-defense' & resistance.

EAAA is the most effective rape resistance program in the world & it's feminist AF. It was also created here in Canada.

Info: sarecentre.org
Some media coverage about it : macleans.ca/education/how-…
Because of generations of victim-blaming & problematic 'self-defense programs' that put the onus on women & perpetuate countless stereotypes, I understand why some feminists feel a visceral no-no-no to the idea of self-defense.

But GOOD resistance trainings are important!
I hear this feedback a lot so I really want to push feminists to ask themselves : Am I going to deny women and girls access to the *only* proven effective rape resistance strategy in the world because it complicates my politics on rape culture ?
'Engaging men and boys to end sexual violence' is SO important but the truth is, we have zero evidence *anywhere* that these efforts are actually reducing rates of perpetration by men.

So while we work diligently to find answers, why not point women towards what we know works?
Last thing I'll say : Take a close look at *what* EAAA is.

It's a 12 hr program that involves TWO HOURS OF PHYSICAL SELF-DEFENSE. That's it!

The bulk (10 hours!) is focused on deprogramming all the misogynist garbage we were taught about our right to defend our bodies.
Folks are forever free to make their own decisions!

But the world is talking about women's experiences of violence at the hands of men & so I think it's important to say "Here is the most effective strategy in the world & it's run by intersectional feminists here in Canada."

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A thread for Canadians looking to channel their heartbreak into concrete action :
Want to support Asian sex workers in Canada?

Donate to @ButterflyCSW here : butterflysw.org/donate
Thanks to @CAN_Femicide tireless work, we found out today that Canada had 160 cases of femicide last year.

Go to ShelterSafe.ca to find your local shelter, share their contact information on your socials and then make a donation.

Shelters need your financial support.
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*Stares in 2015 me who was averaging about a hundred threats a day and who couldn't speak in public without a police escort because I had spoken about sexual harassment at the Royal Military College*
Two. Chiefs. Of. The. Defense. Staff. In. A. Row.
Perhaps this news will help you understand why I'm so furious with @Women_Canada

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24 Feb
I'm working on a piece about incest as the last big taboo of the #MeToo era.

Looking to speak with a few victims/survivors for the piece.
Preferably Canadian/living in Canada. Any gender or age.

Please reply or contact me through my site if you feel safe. 💛
My DMs are closed for my own safety reasons. Apologies I have to make you go through my site, but yeah. The world sucks sometimes.

Yellowmanteau.com
Addendum : I am shook by how many people I've heard from in the last hour. I am humbled by how many people trusted me to reach out.
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When I found out that @Women_Canada scrubbed the word "masculinity" from the new CAF directive on addressing sexual violence in the military, I flipped my wig.

I was told by both Canadian Armed Forces & Status of Women Canada to relax.

But this photo says it all, doesn't it?
This has consistently been my experience working with the CAF : Either outright hostility or absolute ignorance with an almost "Oh, golly gee. Sorry there, little lady. We done goofed."

And to find out that Status of Women is enabling this nonsense is infuriating.
And if you don't believe me, I have a "justification" in writing from the Canadian Armed Forces. I also spent weeks asking to meet with someone from @Women_Canada and all my requests were ignored.
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As an educator who works with young women AND as someone who was 5'10 in the 8th grade: I cannot implore you enough to talk to the young women in your life about the ways older men will hit on them & make them feel like it's a sign of their maturity.
Regardless of YOUR gender, if you know any 11-12 year old girls, please debunk all the pop culture nonsense about muses, groupies.

Our culture is saturated with examples of older men using young women's minds and bodies as inspiration.

It needs to stop.
Young women deserve to know the truth about how proximity to power is a trap.

Please speak frankly with them about how it *does* feel good to get attention, especially from people who have power. Validate their feelings. Then debunk the whole thing.
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4 Jun 20
I am drowning in "BUT IF WE DEFUND COPS, WHO WILL PUNISH RAPISTS?!" messages.

*Deep breath*
I've been working with sexual assault survivors since 2003.

I have, without exaggeration, supported literal thousands of women and girls in my lifetime.

I can count on ONE hand the amount of women who got a conviction. I don't know a single one whose rapist went to prison.
But I do know two hands full of women who were killed by men they had formally reported.

I also know two hands full of women who took their own lives because they were so badly traumatized by the legal system.
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