Based on my experience as a married man (Iβm Single)π€‘ I can tell you with absolute certainty that this is what's happening in many marriages.
When you first met your wife, she was the most beautiful woman. You called her your Queen, your darling, your baby, your sweet heart.
Soon, you got married, life was good. You loved each other so much. Then sudden she got pregnant, sudden her looks began to change, from a beauty queen to something else. Her face and legs swelled. She loses her shape and figures. After she put to bed,
she started to breastfeed your child, her tummy protrudes. She looks like she is in her 60s or 70s.
Now, Instead of you to help her repair herself body, improve her beauty, get rid of that tummy and swelling, you simply abandon her. You dislike her looks.
You some times hate to see her. Suddenly your darling become get out of my face, or I donβt want to see you. So problems starts. You start to creates problems that donβt exist. You make every thing a big dead. Then you start to see other women.
Brother look, a woman is like a Car. When you purchase a Car, after sometimes, you need to repair it, sometimes you service the engine, sometimes you change some parts with new parts. All in order to enjoy driving it and to live longer.
Likewise a woman. She cooked for you for years, dresses you for years, conceive for you for years, breastfeed your child until her beautiful breasts collapse. Now both you and your children have drained and exhausted her. So what should you do? You repair her.
Take her to place where people are fixed after their delivery. Give her money to collect those post pregnancy therapies. Buy good cosmetics and body creams for her. Buy new jewelries, buy new cloths. Make her comfortable. Take her out time to time. That's how you fix her.
but Instead, as soon as she begin to get tired, most Muslim men would start to ask for Fatwa, they want to marry again.
Brother, the problem is not your wife, the problem is you. Even if you marry 100 women, they will also deteriorate because that's the nature of life.
Everything deteriorates with time. Iβm sure if many men were to take good care of their wives, their wives will last longer, their body and shape will remain intact.
Brothers and sisters, this is what I do to my wife. I make sure she is the happiest woman.
I make sure she gets what she wants. I try to make sure she is not depressed. Because depression and sadness can destroy women. She deserves it, because I took her away from her parents. I took over that responsibility the very day I married her from them.
Please be just in your house. And Take care of them. They need it. May Allah SWT bless all our marriages. Ameen
β’ β’ β’
Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to
force a refresh
When -
β¦ Prophet Muhammad ο·Ί says βHave Sabrβ
β¦ Prophet Muhammad ο·Ί says βHave Tawakkulβ
β¦ Prophet Muhammad ο·Ί says βHave Taqwaβ
β¦ Prophet Muhammad ο·Ί says βHave Yaqeenβ
Remember this advice comes from the someone who lost both his parents, he lost his father Abdullah before he was born, lost his mother Aminah at the age of 6, his beloved grandfather also died when he was only 8 years old. He grew up an orphan.
To spread Islam he went through hunger, witnessed his loved ones being tortured, his companions martyred, had to migrate and was prosecuted brutally.
He buried 6 of children (Ibrahim, Zainab, Qasim, Abdullah, Umm Kulthum and Rukayyah),
When a husband is rude, abusive and bad tempered: the wife is told to have sabr and reminded what a good muslim wife does.
But when a wife is rude and bad tempered: the husband is told to find a more pious wife, she is told women don't act this way and her character slandered.
Why don't anyone give this advise instead? π
It is reported that a man came to 'Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radhiAllahu anhu) to complain about his wife's ill-temper.
While he was waiting for 'Umar to come out of his house,
he heard 'Umar's wife scolding him & 'Umar quietly listening to her, and not answering her back.
The man turned around and started walking away, muttering to himself: "If that is the case with 'Umar, the leader of the believers, who is famous for his uprighteness and toughness,
4. Study Qur'an for 20 mins, at least 10 verses with meaning 3:15 AM- 3:25 AM
(Observe your dua for 10 mins, ask all your desires from Allah 3:35 - 3:35 am)
5. Eat sahur 3:35 am till 4:05 am
6. Rest till 4:20 am but do not sleep
7. Pray salatul Fajr 5:30 am
8. Do morning adhkar till 5 :30Am- 5:30 am
9. Rest/prepare for the day till 6 am
10. 10 am - 10:30 am pray salatul duha, at least 4 rakaat
11. Constantly listen to Qur'an via earpiece/headphone
12. Pray salatul Dhuhr by 1 PM. Do 20 mins adhkar
13. Pray salatur Asr by 4PM and do 20 mins evening adhkar
How to develop manners in your child? 1. Greet your child with hugs, salams and kisses. 2. Never speak ill of your relatives, in-laws and friends. Your child listens and emulates.
3. Visit your parents and take your child with you. The more the children see you taking care of your parents, the higher the probability theyβll take care of you. 4. Tell good bedtime stories. Well told stories are memorable and inspiring.
5. Read one hadith a day. This builds character and strengths bonds. 6. Wear presentable cloths when at home. Your child needs to see that being tidy and clean is not only when going out.
Do not rush into marriage because you are not in a race. Do not insist on what is not yet for you.
All people are blessed by Allah with a partner, either in this life or in the Hereafter.
Love yourself first and do the things you have never done with your parents and friends. Do things that can make you a better person.
Make the most of the time when you are single. Because you can't do that when you are already married.
Your priority will be your spouse and your children.
I remember what my mom and dad said; to prioritize my studies and take care of them and my siblings. And bond with my friends. Because when I get married I can no longer do that.