When -
✦ Prophet Muhammad ﷺ says ❝Have Sabr❞
✦ Prophet Muhammad ﷺ says ❝Have Tawakkul❞
✦ Prophet Muhammad ﷺ says ❝Have Taqwa❞
✦ Prophet Muhammad ﷺ says ❝Have Yaqeen❞
Remember this advice comes from the someone who lost both his parents, he lost his father Abdullah before he was born, lost his mother Aminah at the age of 6, his beloved grandfather also died when he was only 8 years old. He grew up an orphan.
To spread Islam he went through hunger, witnessed his loved ones being tortured, his companions martyred, had to migrate and was prosecuted brutally.
He buried 6 of children (Ibrahim, Zainab, Qasim, Abdullah, Umm Kulthum and Rukayyah),
His first love the woman and the mother of believers who supported the cause of Islam for 10 years with her wealth in Makkah his wife of 25 years Khadija رضي الله عنه.
Then in the same year also known as YEAR OF GRIEF he lost his greatest supporter his uncle Abu Talib who took care of him and lived with the grief that Abu Talib died not accepting Islam.
Then when he went to the city of Taif to seek refuge he was chased for nearly 2 miles and stoned till his blessed blood was spilled.
Imagine being 50 years old, having just lost both your wife of twenty-five years and your uncle who took care of you as a child.
Imagine walking into a town in order to ask people for their protection, and instead have them throw stones at you until your feet bled.
He has never ate to his fullest and never slept on a soft mattress.
How would you have felt?
How exhausted, both spiritually and physically,
would you have been?
He then lost another uncle Ḥamzah ibn ʿAbd al-Muṭṭalib رضي الله عنه who was martyred in Battle of Uhud.
🌸 He ﷺ survived all this and he was the best of mankind.
🌸 His hamd of Allah only increased with increase in his tests.
🌸 He ﷺ stood harder in his prayers although he was forgiven.
📚 Aishah (رضي الله عنه) said:
The Prophet ﷺ would stand in prayer so long that the skin of his feet would crack. I asked him, “why do you do this while your past and future sins have been forgiven?” He said,
“Should I not be a grateful slave of Allah?”
[Bukhari]
If pain & tests weren’t the biggest blessings in disguise, why would Allah give it to His most beloved prophet صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ?
When Allah loves a people, He tests them.
Remain patient.
Allah loves you.
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Based on my experience as a married man (I’m Single)🤡 I can tell you with absolute certainty that this is what's happening in many marriages.
When you first met your wife, she was the most beautiful woman. You called her your Queen, your darling, your baby, your sweet heart.
Soon, you got married, life was good. You loved each other so much. Then sudden she got pregnant, sudden her looks began to change, from a beauty queen to something else. Her face and legs swelled. She loses her shape and figures. After she put to bed,
she started to breastfeed your child, her tummy protrudes. She looks like she is in her 60s or 70s.
Now, Instead of you to help her repair herself body, improve her beauty, get rid of that tummy and swelling, you simply abandon her. You dislike her looks.
When a husband is rude, abusive and bad tempered: the wife is told to have sabr and reminded what a good muslim wife does.
But when a wife is rude and bad tempered: the husband is told to find a more pious wife, she is told women don't act this way and her character slandered.
Why don't anyone give this advise instead? 👇
It is reported that a man came to 'Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radhiAllahu anhu) to complain about his wife's ill-temper.
While he was waiting for 'Umar to come out of his house,
he heard 'Umar's wife scolding him & 'Umar quietly listening to her, and not answering her back.
The man turned around and started walking away, muttering to himself: "If that is the case with 'Umar, the leader of the believers, who is famous for his uprighteness and toughness,
4. Study Qur'an for 20 mins, at least 10 verses with meaning 3:15 AM- 3:25 AM
(Observe your dua for 10 mins, ask all your desires from Allah 3:35 - 3:35 am)
5. Eat sahur 3:35 am till 4:05 am
6. Rest till 4:20 am but do not sleep
7. Pray salatul Fajr 5:30 am
8. Do morning adhkar till 5 :30Am- 5:30 am
9. Rest/prepare for the day till 6 am
10. 10 am - 10:30 am pray salatul duha, at least 4 rakaat
11. Constantly listen to Qur'an via earpiece/headphone
12. Pray salatul Dhuhr by 1 PM. Do 20 mins adhkar
13. Pray salatur Asr by 4PM and do 20 mins evening adhkar
How to develop manners in your child? 1. Greet your child with hugs, salams and kisses. 2. Never speak ill of your relatives, in-laws and friends. Your child listens and emulates.
3. Visit your parents and take your child with you. The more the children see you taking care of your parents, the higher the probability they’ll take care of you. 4. Tell good bedtime stories. Well told stories are memorable and inspiring.
5. Read one hadith a day. This builds character and strengths bonds. 6. Wear presentable cloths when at home. Your child needs to see that being tidy and clean is not only when going out.
Do not rush into marriage because you are not in a race. Do not insist on what is not yet for you.
All people are blessed by Allah with a partner, either in this life or in the Hereafter.
Love yourself first and do the things you have never done with your parents and friends. Do things that can make you a better person.
Make the most of the time when you are single. Because you can't do that when you are already married.
Your priority will be your spouse and your children.
I remember what my mom and dad said; to prioritize my studies and take care of them and my siblings. And bond with my friends. Because when I get married I can no longer do that.