THREAD: The Atlanta shooter is one more example of the direct correlation between white supremacists and male supremacists. These populations feed into and recruit each other's members. You can not be one without being the other. medium.com/remaking-manho…
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In our dominance-based man box culture of masculinity, we teach boys a narrow and limited set of rules for being a man. The primary message man box culture teaches boys is “women are less.” We do this by policing boys’ and men’s masculinity via the denigration of the feminine. /2
The bullying and policing of boys and men begins shortly after infancy and goes on continually. "What are you, a girl? What are you, a sissy?" This denigration of the feminine takes place not weekly or daily, but hourly, designed to continually police us back into the box. /3
Eventually, boys under constant bullying and pressure to live up to man box culture’s expectations, engage in public harassment and denigration of women as a shortcut to masculine confirmation. Trash talking women, feminists, men who support women, is how we are taught to bond /4
Once you train boys to think their gender makes them better than girls, it’s not much of a reach to convince them they’re better than others based on race, religion, immigration status, and so on. It’s why masculinity extremists and white supremacists are the same population. /5
Show me the degree to which a man thinks he is better than women and you will have shown me the degree to which he is racist.
One predicts the other. Bank on it. /6
Our dominance-based man box culture of masculinity teaches boys that girls and women are less while bullying and shaming boys out of authentic connection and community. Our sons end up emotionally isolated, disaffected, angry, and ripe for recruitment into white nationalism. /7
All of our society’s problems, racism, anti LGBTQ violence, bigotry, are born out of our generations old dominance-based culture of masculinity. Until we replace it with a culture of masculine connection we will continue to create broken men who do themselves and others harm /8
The correlation between white supremacists and male supremacists clearly highlights the common cause between gender rights activists and BIPOC rights activists. We all face the same enemy. Racism and sexism is a single monolithic threat. /10
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THREAD: Atlanta mass murderer Robert Aaron Long is one of us. Because we’re raised in man box culture, all men contain fragments of masculinity extremists’ world views. His beliefs are not separate from ours, they are just more extreme. remakingmanhood.medium.com/were-all-incel… /1
Lately, I’ve been writing about Incels. The more I consider them, the more I realize they are not so far removed from the rest of us. The incel world view arises from the roots of the same tree, our larger culture of masculinity, where all our ideas about manhood originate. /2
Mr. Long's supposed "sex addiction" narrative is one example of the victimhood narrative which is central to MRA, INCEL and MGTOWs; to all masculinity extremists' world views. "Look what you made me do." /3
Until men aggressively police other men's violent words and deeds towards women and girls, we will continue to be collectively responsible for the billions of violent sins committed daily.
In the The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that “Approximately 1 in 5 (21.3% or an estimated 25.5 million) women in the U.S. reported completed or attempted rape at some point in their lifetime.” /1
Given that most sexual assaults and rapes go unreported these estimates are likely very low. /2
THREAD: Where men need to get to on #MeToo
In the The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that “Approximately 1 in 5 (21.3% or an estimated 25.5 million) women in the U.S. reported completed or attempted rape at some point in their lifetime.” /1
Globally, that number is much higher.
There are some men who will insist that these numbers are inflated. Some among us will debate how many millions of rapes are actually taking place. Is it actually fifteen million? Ten million? /2
What kind of culture of masculinity is capable of hosting a debate on rape framed in terms of how many millions are actually being raped, instead of how to stop it?
THREAD: Why I Primarily Track Other White Men as Threats
Our anxiety inducing culture of masculinity has always driven white men to bullying and violence. And it’s getting worse, the most damaged among us becoming white nationalists or mass shooters. medium.com/remaking-manho… /1
As a white man, I track other white men as the primary threat. They are the ones I watch to see if they are going spiral into anger, to bully, to lash out and hurt others. A lifetime spent around white boys/men taught me this. /2
And even as white cultural dominance is collapsing, even as our society is moving towards full diversity and inclusion, the threats and violence from some white men are getting worse, the most damaged among us becoming white nationalists or mass shooters. /3
The aggression playing out in social media is rooted in our culture of hierarchical, dominance-based masculinity, playing out minus the countervailing moderation found in personal interactions (we know you, we will see you again). In this way, social media is a Rorschach test. /1
Social media's lack of accountability, (very few face consequences) means that men and women, bullied and socialized into aligning with dominance culture use highly abusive language, mirroring their own abuse. In this way, social media reveals a persons level of early trauma. /2
This dangerous space allows people to calcify and express abusive racist and sexist frames in relative anonymity. Any remaining social restrictions dissipate. They are drawn to communities that mirror that language. It feels like belonging. /3
THREAD: Trump will only get worse. Domination culture allows authoritarian leaders one path forward. To keep doubling down on violence and domination. That's the entire repertoire of options. Trump and his base have declared war on our democratic institutions. It will not end. /1
We must understand the fundamental threat posed by Trump's authoritarians who now control the Republican party. White nationalism and authoritarianism dictate that they not only win, but destroy any who are not aligned with their racist, sexist agenda. This is the end game. /2
If we fail to investigate and prosecute the corruption, crimes, and human rights violations of the Trump administration our Republic is finished. /3