- You expect a man to create a safe basket for his wife in case he dies suddenly.
Spoiler alert: That's patriarchy.
- During a divorce, a man should share everything he laboured for 50/50 with a woman whether she contributed to his growth or
..not.
- If the wife is doing pretty good, you encourage her to have a secret account, build a secret house and other establishment because in patriarchal setting, a wife's money belongs to her while the husband's money belongs to both of them.
You are an enabler of patriarchy.
- You are doing good, possibly a millionaire, yet you want to marry a man richer than you, a man who's above your league.
You call it having standards but that's patriachal. Naturally, men marry down while women marry up because women are hypergamous in nature.
For someone who
..wants to dismantle the patriarchy and neutralize the gender norms, you should start by doing the opposite of what patriarchal relationship stands for; a man being the breadwinner, the dominant one, the chaser, and all the traditional attributes of patriarchal relationships.
- You want women to be empowered so that they can occupy political offices just like men.
Firstly, there won't be a need for empowerment if you were equal to the task.
Secondly, you are demanding this empowerment from men the patriarchs. That's tricky, don't you think?
Women including feminists are the ones upholding patriarchy. Just that feminists are trying to play smart by speaking from both sides of their mouth; "dismantle patriarchy but also give us the goodies that come from patriarchy".
In case you are not aware that the method you are using to dismantle the Patriarchy is flawed, the point I dropped will help your mission. Start by ticking them off your list.
"Indoctrination is the reason why a girl child wears pink and play with dolls, while the boy child plays with truck because we were at blank state at birth"
Feminists bring up this indoctrination when we question why women don't do or have interest in certain things.
Let's talk about this indoctrination. shall we?
When it comes to why you don't have interest in politics or other disciplines, you cry indoctrination;
- Your parents are core Catholics, you were born and raised in it but today you're a member of Christ Embassy and your sister
..is a member of Winners chapel.
The indoctrination must be really weak for you to be able to change church.
- From the moment you had your first menstrual period, your mom told you that once a man touches you, you will get pregnant, the church teaches you abstinence till
Women talk a lot that's why their problems are known and attended to but we can't say the same for men.
Men aren't supposed to "whine" about their problems but unfortunately, their shortcomings are talked about thereby ignoring their sufferings.
Man up, suck it up, be a man...
... has taken many men to their early graves.
Men are not commandos or terminators or immortals the society is expecting them to be, if they were there won't be a high rate of male suicide, depression, we won't have young vibrant men slump and die on daily basis.
So, they need to talk to let the world know that men suffer such burdens because many people are ignorant of men's suffrage, now couple that with the constant demonization of men and boys in the name of fighting for women.
Men suffer abuses as well.
After men send their daughters to school from pre nursery to university, in some cases, masters and PhD level, and then these women worked hard to get to the great height they are in, you will come out and start shouting feminism.
They don't identify as feminists not because
They have no regards for the role feminism has played in women's education and social rights but they can't give feminism the credit for their parents' efforts and that of theirs.
If every successful woman gives credit to feminism, what happens to the men that created...
... civilization in the first place?
Even after everything men have done, feminists are still making demands in 2021, now they still want to take glory for individual efforts.
Feminists are so quick to claim successful women that they contributed not to on a personal level,
Let's talk about hierarchy in marriage.
A woman put up a tweet about the things she learned from her failed marriage. She and her ex-husband dated for 4 years, got married and divorced 13 months later.
She put down a quite number of things that ruined their marriage and
According to her, the major one was disagreement. They argue a lot over decision making, in her words "that's what really broke us".
At the end she said that she's happier, healthier now and looking forward to a better relationship.
From her tweet, you will think that she learnt
her mistake but she didn't. Her advice is, find a partner that you can easily come to an agreement with but that's not all it is to it.
I will explain;
Humans as an entity can not function without hierarchy. Primary school pupils have a class monitor, teachers have a headmaster